We all hate them, those bad pornos. I mean the ones that have taught a generation of men how to perform sex acts all wrong (and all too roughly), and told the same generation of women that it’s totally OK to wear your most body baring lingerie as street clothes. Surely there’s no value in these cheesy films, with their funky soundtracks and stilted scripting ... is there? Believe it or not even the worst, cheesiest pornography can work wonders on your sex life by teaching you a few new tricks. And no, I don't just mean those kinds of tricks.
Many of us could learn a thing or two from pornography, even the bad stuff.
Oh Yeah, Baby ...
Many of us have gotten into the habit of remaining silent during sex or never did quite become comfortable enough to tell our partners what we’re feeling. This is one thing that porn gets right: You always know when someone's having a good time. You don't have to squeal so the whole neighborhood can hear you (although if you want to, by all means), but a few words can go a long way toward enhancing your sexual experiences. If we channel the brazen men and women who tell their partners exactly how to move to drive them wild, we could all bring our next sexy interlude to the next level. And if you pull out a long, deep moan like those video stars, more power to you - your partner will love it! (Get some tips on how to talk dirty in Talk Dirty to Me: The How and Why of Hot Aural Sex.)Fetish Fun
Nothing's off limits in pornography. That doesn't mean you have to be open to everything, but many pornography characters dress up in various outfits and role play while they go through the sexy-time motions. Get inspired by their creativity! Dress up as the MILF next door who bangs her much younger neighbor, or the sexy school kid who seduces the teacher for a better grade. For wilder roles to play, look to the movies that feature sex with shapely aliens, or men in uniforms, or whatever else you can find that looks like fun.Puttin' on a Show
Porn stars come in all shapes, sizes and ages but they all have one thing in common: They work it with all the confidence of a perfect 10, every time. If they don't think they're sexy, no one else will either. The same is true for you, so carry yourself just like the porn vixen you are, wear your life experiences like a brilliant red robe, and leave the lights on so you and your partner can revel in the visual stimulation of your joined bodies. (If body-image issues are ruining your sex life, read Worried About Weight? How to Have Spectacular Sex Anyway.)