JoEllen Notte

JoEllen is a writer, speaker, researcher and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken on her award-winning site The Redhead Bedhead. JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression. JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, Woodhull's Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground ConferenceJoEllen's book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having is now available in paperback, ebook, and audiobook.

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Articles by JoEllen Notte

Masturbation is one of the most popular pastimes that people still get really weird about acknowledging. That said, not only...

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Masturbation. It’s a safe and easy way to enjoy sexual pleasure in the comfort of your home any time you...

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Wondering how to score a date in 2024? Turns out dating apps aren't the only option.

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Issues with your libido can be caused by problems with your physical health, but they can also be a result of difficulties in your relationship. And figuring out the real culprit is going to take some work.

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Painful during sex is a woefully common problem with a lot of potential causes. We're breaking down the usual, and the not so usual, suspects behind painful sex.

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If you keep safety in mind before and during your consensual spanking sessions, you will be free to fully enjoy all the many facets of spanking and kinky discipline.

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Banish mediocre sex! These oral sex positions put a new spin on giving head.

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Looking for a good, old-fashioned, super-intense boning? It's time to go deep!

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Even the "best" sex toys are prone to disappoint. Here are 5 things you should know if it happens to you.

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People with periods spend an estimated 3,500 days of their lives menstruating. For many, putting their sex lives on hold for all that time just isn't an option. Period sex is not a big deal. And with a Ziggy Cup menstrual disc, it's even less so!

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Speaking up, taking responsibility, staying present and trusting are all things I’ve struggled with in relationships. Learning to do those things has made my relationships so much more satisfying.

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Hallmark does not make any Valentine's Day cards that mention how you want to masturbate with your partner, but they definitely should.

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