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JoEllen Notte

JoEllen is a writer, speaker, researcher and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken on her award-winning site The Redhead Bedhead. JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression. JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, Woodhull's Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground ConferenceJoEllen's book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having is now available in paperback, ebook, and audiobook.

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The G-spot exists, but it's not one simple spot. A recent study shows that the CUV region is not only sensual, but it is also different on everyone.

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Great sex is a combination of several sexy factors. If you can openly talk to your partner about your likes and dislikes and if you spend time daydreaming about your tantalizing trysts with your partner, you are well on your way to great sex.

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Don't let yourself get trapped in a cycle of abuse. Here are 15 signs that you should reevaluate your relationship.

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Redhead Bedhead gives a sneak-peek of LELO's latest toy, DEXTRUS.

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Yes, you can get good, high-quality, body-safe sex toys on a budget!

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