JoEllen Notte

JoEllen is a writer, speaker, researcher and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken on her award-winning site The Redhead Bedhead. JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression. JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, Woodhull's Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground ConferenceJoEllen's book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having is now available in paperback, ebook, and audiobook.

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Articles by JoEllen Notte
HPV: Separating Fact From Fiction
HPV: Separating Fact From Fiction

This STI is about as common and widespread as it is misunderstood.

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19 Things I Learned On My Adult Sex Ed Journey
19 Things I Learned On My Adult Sex Ed Journey

Join us as one sex educator shares 19 tips for a better sex life.

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On The Other Hand: Remembering That Masturbation Isn’t Mandatory
On The Other Hand: Remembering That Masturbation Isn’t Mandatory

Just like any other sex act, masturbation is not everyone's cup of tea.

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The Long and Short of Buying Your First Dildo
The Long and Short of Buying Your First Dildo

There's so much selection in this aisle of your local sex shop that it can hard to know what to choose.

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Be a Sexy Safer Sex Superhero in 6 Steps
Be a Sexy Safer Sex Superhero in 6 Steps

If you want to play safe without spoiling the fun, all you need is a little preparation.

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It’s Not You: 4 Signs Your Partner’s Too Depressed to Have Sex
It’s Not You: 4 Signs Your Partner’s Too Depressed to Have Sex

No sex can feel like rejection. When it's caused by depression, it isn't.

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The Big Reveal: Meeting Your Partner’s Sex Toy
The Big Reveal: Meeting Your Partner’s Sex Toy

Meeting a partner's sex toy for the first time can be intimidating - but it can also be exciting, fun and super sexy!

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Hand Jobs for Grown Ups
Hand Jobs for Grown Ups

Hand jobs can be a fun, sexy experience with these amazing techniques.

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The Proof Is In: Women Like Casual Sex Just as Much as Men
The Proof Is In: Women Like Casual Sex Just as Much as Men

Casual sex is a choice that many women make...and that's okay! You shouldn't feel ashamed or guilty of your sexual desires or gratifications as long as they are consensual. Remember, protect yourself and your partner from STIs!

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The CUV Region or All You Really Need to Know about Those ‘The G-Spot Doesn’t Exist!’ Articles
The CUV Region or All You Really Need to Know about Those ‘The G-Spot Doesn’t Exist!’ Articles

The G-spot exists, but it's not one simple spot. A recent study shows that the CUV region is not only sensual, but it is also different on everyone.

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6 Signs That You Are Having Great Sex
6 Signs That You Are Having Great Sex

Great sex is a combination of several sexy factors. If you can openly talk to your partner about your likes and dislikes and if you spend time daydreaming about your tantalizing trysts with your partner, you are well on your way to great sex.

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15 Signs That You’re In an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
15 Signs That You’re In an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

Don't let yourself get trapped in a cycle of abuse. Here are 15 signs that you should reevaluate your relationship.

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