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JoEllen Notte

JoEllen is a writer, speaker, researcher and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken on her award-winning site The Redhead Bedhead. JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression. JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, Woodhull's Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground ConferenceJoEllen's book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having is now available in paperback, ebook, and audiobook.

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This Is Not Another Article About Not Having Sex During Holiday Visits
This Is Not Another Article About Not Having Sex During Holiday Visits

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10 Sexy Ways to Spend Thanksgiving Weekend

Do something sexy this weekend! Seriously. It's way better than hanging around Target.

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Make Sure Your Partner Speaks Your Nonmonogamy Language
Make Sure Your Partner Speaks Your Nonmonogamy Language

The best way to navigate the world of nonmonogamy is honesty and openness - with others and with yourself.

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Ergonomic Sex Toys: Why They’re a Thing (Or Should Be)
Ergonomic Sex Toys: Why They’re a Thing (Or Should Be)

Pleasure is for everybody and EVERY body. Ergonomic sex toy design helps ensure that more people can enjoy themselves.

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Hook Ups Without Hang Ups: How to Keep Casual Sex Ethical, Drama-Free, and Fun
Hook Ups Without Hang Ups: How to Keep Casual Sex Ethical, Drama-Free, and Fun

Research shows that engaging in casual sex for the right reasons isn't harmful. Be kind to your partner. Be open with communication. Know what you and your partner both want.

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