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Sex education

Sex Stories We Love: Lascivious Lawbreaking in the Library, Plant Sex and Sexy Spine Curves

Breaking sex laws in the library, plant sex, sexy spines, and much more! Check out this week's issue of Sex Stories We Love!

Men Like Curvy Butts ... and That's No Lie!

Apparently, it ain’t all about that bass after all. Rather, men are attracted to curvy booties because it indicates a better likelihood of ... getting fed? Yup, that's about the cut of it. Researchers discovered that what men are really excited about is the curvature of a woman's spine. Women with just the right spine curvature jut their butts at the perfect angle. Still, guys aren’t glancing at those glutes. Instead, the spine of pregnant women evolved in such a way because of their forward facing pregnancies. That achieved angle lessened the strain and possible injury during pregnancies and allowed women to continue activity, such as foraging for food. I politely refuse to speculate if this has anything to do with the etymology of "tossing salad."

Lascivious Lawbreaking in the Library

It charms me to think that people believe that Canada is this quiet nation full of polite folks who apologize and say "eh" a lot. Taking a gander through the news, sex news in particular, over the past few years reveals that Canada is the home of some of the most unapologetically dirty minds! Our recently outed library camgirl in is one such example. After it was discovered that someone was broadcasting sex acts from various public libraries (and other locations) in the Windsor, Ontario, area, Alexandria "Alexa" Morra was charged with one count of committing an indecent act. She plans to plead not guilty. I’m not quite sure how that’ll work given the video evidence, but this certainly spurs the debate on public sex. Are libraries an acceptable place to put on a cam show? Is anywhere in public acceptable? I ask that all of the sex nerds with library and books fetishes keep the tittering down between the stacks, please.

The Friction Caused by Regulation Lube

Oh, what a slippery slope! The regulation of sex products, and in particular lube, is a difficult proposition. On one hand, lube is a product that can be used internally and consumers should be sure that such products are completely body-safe. On the other hand, the bureaucracy, cost, and time involved in getting a lube on the market is such that only large companies can manage to provide this assurance to consumers. I’m not entirely sure that the months of wait time and incredible cost to bring a lube to market in America are justified. Yet, do we really want to loosen the reigns of the FDA to get more lubes, and less stringently tested lubes, into the public’s hands? Should trust be placed in those who know and understand their products and say that their product is safe?

Check Out That Stalk!

So, what does a green vibrator look like? Well, green. No! What does a green vibrator that helps the environment look like? Well, there are a number of eco-friendly sex toys on the market. What does a vibrator for plants to help them reproduce look like? A unique think tank, the Plant Sex Consultancy, was put together to look at the possibility of producing items that would aid in plant sex. One item mimics the buzz of a particular bee to aid in pollination. Another item acts as a barrier to funguses in the same manner as an STI barrier. The intersection of the plant and human worlds might not be that far off after all.

Questions of Abuse

I remember FetLife, the online bondage and BDSM fetish community, when it started out. I interviewed the founder, John Baku, on Sex City a million spanks ago. I remember the earnest ambition of starting a community for kinksters because there just wasn't anything like it. I also remember just how fast and wildly it grew. This growth was fantastic to see, but with growth comes pain. One very difficult situation for the sexual social site to deal with is addressing accused abusers. A recent provocative piece in The Atlantic calls into question FetLife's policy of not publicly naming people accused of sexual impropriety. Should people with intimate knowledge of another's legal transgressions be allowed to name, even just screen name, that person? There's both a legal and moral argument at play and both are compelling.

Don't Take It Lying Down

Bravo to Ontario, Canada, Member of Provincial Parliament Cheri DiNovo’s new private member’s bill that would make it illegal to try and "treat" kids who identify as queer or trans. Think back to the movie "Saved" and how Dean was sent away to a special school because his parents discovered he was gay. This ridiculous idea of conversion therapy can at best be described as misguided and at worst outright abuse. People are just like couches. Yes, sometimes you can make some little switches here and there and suddenly you’ve got a better couch. Often, that couch is uncomfortable. Let people be the comfy couch they wanna be.
Jon Pressick

Jon Pressick is a sex-related media gadabout. For more than 20 years, Jon has been putting sex into our daily conversations at his long-running site SexInWords—as a writer, editor, publisher, sex toy reviewer, radio host, workshop facilitator, event producer and more. These days, he focuses on writing for Kinkly, GetMeGiddy, The Buzz and PinkPlayMags and editing Jason Armstrong's series of Solosexual books. In 2015, Jon edited Cleis Press' Best Sex Writing of the...