Thuddy pains, my personal favorite, are deeper. They're felt in the muscles. In some cases, the sensation is similar to a deep tissue massage. Deep pain can be caused by paddles, floggers, and hands. Punching is a form of impact play that feels almost exactly like a massage. Only the large muscles are targeted and while a fist is used, the flat part of your fist is what should make contact, not the knuckles. (Note: Don't try punching unless you're trained in massage or can learn from someone with experience.)
Emotional Pain in BDSM
Often referred to as humiliation, emotional pain is another legitimate kink in BDSM. It requires plenty of trust on the part of the submissive and great control from the Dominant. Like physical pain, if not handled properly, this type of play can cause real damage. It's not for everyone and should be negotiated carefully. Safewords should be used. Aftercare is a definite must with all forms of play, but especially humiliation.
Humiliation takes many forms and is unique to the person who enjoys it. Boot licking, crawling on the floor, urinating in front of your partner, being called names – the list of possibilities is endless. For me, light emotional pain is most effective when crossed with physical pain. I allow my Dominant to smack my face in scenes or during sex. The physical pain and the humiliation from the act turns me on and makes my eyes roll back in my head.
Pain Tolerance
Kink and sex are physical, but they are also mental. When you're in the mood to play, you might eye the flogger or paddle and start imagining all the fun you'll have. Yet, if you're stressed about work or kids, that painful sensation you love could easily become unbearable.
