What Dancers Aren't
Stereotypes are made for a reason so I'm not going to sit here and tell you that all dancers are healthy, hard-hardworking women just trying to get ahead of the game, that the stereotype of the drug-addicted prostitute is some big lie. The reality is that this line of work attracts people who use drugs because there is no drug testing - at least I've never heard of a club drug testing their dancers. It's simply an atmosphere where it's easier to get away with using drugs.Prostitution also comes with the territory. Exotic dancing is part of the sex industry. Dancers aren't supposed to sell sex per se. What they do sell is a sexual fantasy. And sometimes, that fantasy paves the way to a real encounter. It happens. It happens in the clubs. It happens when dancers meet men outside of the club after work. I would even say that it happened more after the economy crashed. Men just want more bang for their buck. Seriously, no pun intended.
Drugs are a factor here too. I've worked with a lot of dancers who are strung out and doing more than dancing to support their habit. They've lost their kids and can't pay their rent. It's sad, but it happens.
What They Can Be
I think of the ideal dancer as this beautiful, intelligent, educated, sexually empowered woman who doesn't do drugs, doesn't get drunk and doesn't prostitute herself. She treats her job as a job and not a party. Her bills are paid and she's saving money for the future. I've met a few of these mystical creatures who always seem to have their sh*t together and have a good head on their shoulders. They are usually a pleasure to work with because they are either extremely friendly and helpful to new dancers or they are so focused on their jobs that they hardly ever talk to anyone. They usually retire from the business early and use the money they earned to pursue new ventures. Some of them use dancing as a platform to get into other areas of the adult industry, be it feature entertaining, erotic modeling or porn. Overall, though, these ladies have a plan, and the strip club is just a quick stop toward a bigger goal.
The Average Dancer
It's hard to pin down the "average" exotic dancer. I have worked with a few women over the age of 50 who got into the business when they were younger and just never moved up or got out - for whatever reason. There are a lot of transient dancers who dance for a while, either to put themselves through school or just because they think it might be fun. A lot of dancers I've worked with were single mothers who worked a day job and danced a few days a week just to bring in a little extra money for their kids. Some dancers drink a little without getting drunk. Some use drugs recreationally but haven't landed themselves an addiction. Of course, I like to think that I was an average dancer. When I was still dancing I had a useless boyfriend who sucked my money up faster than I could make it and prevented me from moving up in the business like I had wanted to. I think that kind of thing happens to a lot of dancers too. They are young, they get involved with the wrong guy, and they end up getting stuck in a rut. I also believe that a lot of dancers start out with the best intentions but fall prey to drug addiction, or get hooked on the money they're making, or fall into some other trap that leads them to become that stripper stereotype everyone's so familiar with. (If you're interested in going behind the scenes, you may want to check out the "Bare:The Naked Truth About Stripping", which looks at the sex industry from the perspective of a former peep-show girl.)
