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It sounds like your vibrating butt plug is providing prostate stimulation, which can absolutely make orgasms more intense! And while...
Read the answer → “All bodies are different, so it can take some trial and error to figure out the best way to bring...
Read the answer → “A man in his mid-60s asks Kinkly's sex experts is it normal to fantasize about being a sexually submissive man?
Read the answer → “A Kinkly reader asks one of our experts about how to explain her BDSM relationship to her vanilla boyfriend.
Read the answer → “Erika Lust explains how to plan a birthday gangbang that's physically and emotionally safe for all participants.
Read the answer → “How to spice up your connection and gently introduce kink into your relationship.
Read the answer → “A reader husband inquires what is the best way to have a threesome with his wife and another man
Read the answer → “A reader catches her teenage son masturbating while sniffing her panties and wants to know how to deal with it in a sensitive way. Our expert…
Read the answer → “If submission is triggering for you, remember that there are resources to help you process trauma - and many ways to submit.
Read the answer → “Many people believe hot husbands experience no discomfort around their partner's desires. That's not true. Quean Mo explains how to handle guilt:
Read the answer → “You do have some options. You can always opt to touch yourself during sex. Clitoral stimulation can be a big help. There are also a lot…
Read the answer → “Guys often work to slow down the time it takes to orgasm. But what about if you want to climax more quickly?
Read the answer → “What's the best lube for masturbation if you have a penis?
Read the answer → “It sounds like that you're most likely just really tense. After all, you've only known the guy for a couple of months. Vaginas have an amazing…
Read the answer → “Undergoing a hysterectomy may raise a lot of questions. We wanted to know, can you still come after a hysterectomy?
Read the answer → “Have a cuckquean fantasy? Here's how to go about fulfilling it!
Read the answer → “I’ve never really been into vibrators but I would like to be, and I’d like to have my husband try some with me in the bedroom.…
Read the answer → “Can jealousy be eliminated in a cuckquean relationship? How?
Read the answer → “This reader wants their sexy back but old trauma is cropping up to kill the mood. Certified sex educator Gigi Engle provides some ideas.
Read the answer → “Kinkly asks the expert: How can I have my first threesome without it being awkward?
Read the answer → “What can a penis owner do to help maintain a partner's vaginal health? There are a few things!
Read the answer → “Want to take 'playing doctor' to the next level? Kinkly asks the expert about medical play and safety.
Read the answer → “Kinkly asks the expert about the link between oral sex and cancer.
Read the answer → “Where do you look if you want a third for your threesome? Start by reading this!
Read the answer → “When experimenting with genital clamps, get familiar with your tool of choice before it touches any sensitive part of your body.
Read the answer → “Kinkly asks the expert what you should know about increased testosterone levels and masturbation.
Read the answer → “Kinkly asks the expert about chronic masturbation.
Read the answer → “Times of crisis, of any kind, can create intense reactions to everyday scenarios and heighten our emotional needs. The tricky part is that we are often…
Read the answer → “Loss of sensation after any surgery is common and equally disheartening if not traumatic. We often hear from our doctors that it is a possible side…
Read the answer → “Orgasming with a partner is something that movies and social narratives tell us is oh so easy, when, in fact, it poses and a continual challenge…
Read the answer → “Lasting longer in bed is something that many people with penises feel concerned about. They think that to please their partner and be a great lover,…
Read the answer → “Congratulations on realizing that sex education is part of the work you want to do to make the world a better place! I remember being fascinated…
Read the answer → “Sexual health for many of us is overlooked and under-supported in many spaces. It can also be underlooked, so to speak, in the case of survivors.Sexual…
Read the answer → “I wish that I could say that all of us will be held and handled the same in a doctor's office. Unfortunately, that is not the…
Read the answer → “Rather than thinking what is the best type of bondage for a beginner, I would ask what is the best type of bondage for me. I’ve…
Read the answer → “The definition of hierarchy is a system or organization in which people or groups are ranked one above the other according to status or authority. The…
Read the answer → “The pudendal nerve is attached to the perineum, which is the area of skin between the anus and the vagina. It connects the genitals to the…
Read the answer → “Gaslighting is a term that a lot of people are just discovering. But, unfortunately, it is not a new experience for many people. The term gaslighting…
Read the answer → “The last few years have been really hard, especially if you are a survivor or someone who falls under the marginalized identity structure. And goodness forbid…
Read the answer → “This may look different for everyone depending on what feels “safe” for you, as well as what your needs are. There are some things that you…
Read the answer → “One of my main goals with "The Ultimate Guide to Bondage" was to make bondage accessible to everybody. So, most of the materials that I use…
Read the answer → “SART stands for sexual assault response team. This is the medical exam that is given to sexual assault survivors if they decide to go to a…
Read the answer → “One of the beautiful things about power exchange is that vulnerability that you can find. But yes, it is really important to make sure that whoever…
Read the answer → “With any job that has to do with working with individuals it is important to know why you are doing the job and or want to…
Read the answer → “When I talk to survivors after they have experienced an assault, they tend to have had plenty of people talking at them and never actually listening…
Read the answer → “Yes to both. It is always OK to say no – ALWAYS. Being pressured to have sex when you aren’t in the mood is never sexy…
Read the answer → “We all have an inner critic. Rarely do we realize how impactful that critic can be. When it comes to desire, arousal and pleasure our inner…
Read the answer → “Trauma can be a psychological, emotional and/or physical response to an event or multiple experiences that are distressing and disturbing. Trauma is just a guideline because…
Read the answer → “Stress is the antithesis of desire and pleasure. Therefore, when you are stressed sex will be at the bottom of your emotional and physical to-do list.…
Read the answer → “Anxiety is one of the most common mental health issues related to sexual dysfunction. At one point, anxiety was seen to be the leading cause of…
Read the answer → “This is a great conversation to be having with your friends. I wish more people were talking about having conversations with their friends about boundaries.What are…
Read the answer → “That sounds super frustrating for you. From what I see in my practice, there are a few things I would consider for you. First of all,…
Read the answer → “The first thing that you can do for yourself as an ally/accomplice is never stop learning. As cheesy as it sounds, knowledge is truly power. Sexual…
Read the answer → “If you have a friend that is male-identified how would you support them?Would it be any different than supporting a female-identified friend?No, someone is still coming…
Read the answer → “Sex therapy is the clinical treatment of sexual dysfunction and sexuality-related concerns. Sex therapy occurs in outpatient psychotherapy with a unique focus on sexuality-related topics.Certified Sex…
Read the answer → “After any kind of threesome or group play, it's really important to find a way to have a check-in with your partner. For some people, that…
Read the answer → “Well, this one comes up a lot. People want sex and threesomes to happen spontaneously and organically. And, well, I won't say that never in the…
Read the answer → “For starters, I would say that you're on the right track already being in touch with yourself and knowing what you need. If you know that…
Read the answer → “Using fantasy and dirty talk is a great way to incorporate experiences into your sex life that may be either logistically impractical or simply outside of…
Read the answer → “Repeat after me: you are not broken! More often than one might think, I see males in my office that just don’t have the “sex drive”…
Read the answer → “You sound like a lot of people I see in my practice. I say that to say, what you are going through is relatively normal. Especially…
Read the answer → “Great question! This is a common issue but there are a lot of variables that come into play here. What positions have you tried already? How…
Read the answer → “That does sound quite frustrating, although not uncommon. I actually hear this more frequently from people than you might think, and it isn’t just from women.…
Read the answer → “Desire; desire is the first thing because you’re dealing with muscles that you have to have the ability to relax, and if you can relax these…
Read the answer → “Here's the thing: People are built to either have sex or go pee, but not do them at the same time. If you did have big…
Read the answer → “Maybe the toy doesn't work for you. That's totally OK - all bodies are different. But I always tell people that if they haven't tried a…
Read the answer → “If it only happens occasionally, you are likely normal and healthy. In fact, this is likely just your partner hitting up against your cervix. Most people,…
Read the answer → “I want to start by asking you, if this is new and you are totally freaked out, is it enough to just end the relationship? Or…
Read the answer → “Here's the truth: Having painful vaginal penetration may be common for some, but it should never become the norm for you. If penetrative sex is painful…
Read the answer → “Sex toys have been around for a very long time - and we have the artifacts to prove it! Read the news and you will see…
Read the answer → “First, I think you have to recognize that your fear around BDSM and some of the things it involves probably comes from a real place. If…
Read the answer → “Dryness is more common than not and should be addressed from the inside out. You want to look at all possible resources to find one that…
Read the answer → “There are lots of different sex toy materials out there and, as you said, some are not so good for our bodies. Beyond materials like wood,…
Read the answer → “Everyone is different in what excites them, but there are five points on the female pleasure anatomy that are well worth exploring. When I say exploring…
Read the answer → “If it's different for everyone, how do you know if you've had an orgasm?
Read the answer → “Have you ever asked him exactly what it is he is looking for to qualify that you are enjoying yourself? Is there some specific response, verbal…
Read the answer → “It sounds like, based upon the little you shared, that your partner and you have very different levels of sexual desire on a day-to-day basis. I…
Read the answer → “Several household items can be used or made into sex toys. Here are some tips on how to do that safely.
Read the answer → “First, I would like to take away the word "normal." Normal is really someone else’s standards of living imposed upon your life, and doesn’t mean that…
Read the answer → “Embarrassment can be a very natural and normal response. I recommend developing a balance of being both honest and private. Let them know sex is just…
Read the answer → “I want to commend you and your husband for at least knowing that you want to continue co-raising your children, and being aware of their needs.…
Read the answer → “Well, no two munches are the same. Some are held in bars or pubs, some in restaurants and some in coffee shops. Most are held in…
Read the answer → “First, this answer depends substantially on what the nature of your relationship and break-up was like. Did you really love this man? Did you see yourself…
Read the answer → “I would have to say that the majority of what goes into this decision is your comfort level, as well as what is relevant. Personally, I…
Read the answer → “Domination is a skill that also requires many attributes, some natural, others acquired through financial means. Most good Mistresses and Dommes are naturally Dominant in their…
Read the answer → “The ideal place to start when shopping for a corset is your local corset shop, if you have one. Although their prices might be more than…
Read the answer → “If you are touching him and paying attention to his response, he will guide you. If he says something feels good, trust him. Beyond that, I…
Read the answer → “A love and relationship coach is the evolution of a life coach, only love coaches help people to improve the quality of their love lives. Love…
Read the answer → “Yes, especially when lover's read to each other! Many women get turned on by aural sex and most men are aroused by all types of erotica.…
Read the answer → “Anal sex is not taboo for everyone, but it may be taboo to some for various moral or emotional reasons. For example, some people believe the…
Read the answer → “You have been lucky. What you refer to as "lag time" is sometimes called the refractory period. This term is used to describe the amount of…
Read the answer → “Issues with his erection are almost always a side effect of a greater problem. The number one thing that has an impact on the health of…
Read the answer → “You are one of those awesome lovers who will give your partner pleasure despite your own discomfort. I really hope your partner has the same generous…
Read the answer → “Initially – wow. That is a lot to take on and cope with. Good for you for getting to a point where you would like to…
Read the answer → “A common response to "Is there a difference?" or "What is the difference?" is that what we consider the sex of an individual often has to…
Read the answer → “Understanding sex is a life skill. I often associate the understanding of sexuality with having an understanding of food and cooking or money management. The more…
Read the answer → “Well, that sucks for starters. Pain during sex can come from a number of places, so I have several recommendations that will provide a holistic approach.…
Read the answer → “Why have more than one Dom(me)? For the same reasons anyone has more than one partner. Many people who are polyamorous or who engage in open…
Read the answer → “You probably can. If you've never had a lot of sensation or any sensation in your clitoris, I must ask if you've ever had a pelvic…
Read the answer → “Thank you for reaching out with this question. I know it can be a vulnerable topic to talk about. You bring up a lot of points…
Read the answer → “Studies show that the number one way we all learn about sex is through gossip. It’s not true for every guy, but the second most popular…
Read the answer → “Of course you are not doomed! Or, at least, you don’t have to be. It sounds like there might be some miscommunication about each of your…
Read the answer → “Do a search for "types of female orgasms" and you will easily find lists and lists of types of female orgasm. Experts and authors speak of…
Read the answer → “Yes, I can! Keep in mind that every party will be a little different. I can give you enough insight to help you navigate your way…
Read the answer → “Whoa! So, grabbing random people off the street so you can suck dick or get penetrated might not be the best way to go – safety…
Read the answer → “The morning after pill a form of emergency contraceptive. This is different than "the abortion pill", or RU-486. The morning after pill (which is generally four…
Read the answer → “The withdrawal method of birth control, also known as "pulling out," is when the male ejaculates outside of the vagina during sex. Many couples rely on…
Read the answer → “Well, most importantly, if you stop taking the birth control pill, you could become pregnant, even if you only miss one. If you stop because of…
Read the answer → “Certainly this may work. However, the estrogen in the pill, when taken in higher doses than normal, might make you a lot more nauseous than the…
Read the answer → “Nope. This will never happen. Sex toys are awesome tools. If you find a strong toy you love and use it vigorously, you may experience a…
Read the answer → “You can massage a man's prostate from the outside or the inside of his body. And, yes, I'm talking about his butt here. Why would you…
Read the answer → “First things first: As surely as you can state that you are a normal man with a normal anatomy, I want you to remember that your…
Read the answer → “Most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone. You may be able to learn to orgasm purely from penetration. If not, you will at the very least…
Read the answer → “If you've never encountered a penis with a foreskin, putting a condom on one can seem a bit intimidating. While it's true the process involves a…
Read the answer → “This depends on the guy. Some men have a lot of control. Other guys have to spend time and energy to gain control over this natural…
Read the answer → “A pap test, or pap smear, is a test done to check for abnormal cervical cells. Generally, these abnormal cells are caused by the HPV virus,…
Read the answer → “Condoms are not as intuitive as people seem to think. There are lots of ways to use one incorrectly. Even if you do everything right, once…
Read the answer → “This seems like a loaded question, meaning that there may be more going on than I can address here in a one-off. I will do my…
Read the answer → “First, find a Tardis. Perhaps a Delorean. If those two fail, get to work on building your own time machine so you can somehow go back…
Read the answer → “No birth control is 100% effective. I repeat, NO BIRTH CONTROL IS 100% EFFECTIVE. The pill is close, at 99% with perfect use, but only about…
Read the answer → “It’s possible. Reduced libido is one of the possible side effects of the pill, and it's caused by an excess of progestin. What does that mean?…
Read the answer → “Boredom is the most common reason to need new stimulation in the bedroom. Assuming that you want to stay with the object of your lessened desire,…
Read the answer → “You raise large issues in a short space. You write that you love your girl, and want to find a solution. If it is your sincere…
Read the answer → “These are two very big questions, and I’ll do my best to give them both complete answers. First, let me applaud you for being concerned about…
Read the answer → “It is with compassion that I tell you that trading men for women because you find men to be a problem is merely like trading geometry…
Read the answer → “Rope ties should not be painful, per se; they should feel more like a sort of bear hug. As always, that depends on the person being…
Read the answer → “What a fun question! First off, the fact that you have already been engaging in nipple play means that you have a head start on knowing…
Read the answer → “There’s a lot to unpack in that question. I’d venture to guess that you, like a lot of my clients, are experiencing a lot of stress…
Read the answer → “The super-fun thing about fetishes that involve everyday items is that your play doesn't have to be limited to the bedroom; you can take it out…
Read the answer → “Wow! Congratulations on your marriage. Obviously, something has been working within that time. But, I hear ya. Many people struggle with this in long-term relationships. First,…
Read the answer → “You have no idea how often I am asked this question or something similar regarding a munch. It is a term often bandied around in the…
Read the answer → “First off, I'm so sorry you're in pain! I have had multiple spinal surgeries myself, and I know how debilitating that kind of pain can be.…
Read the answer → “First thing, I just want to say that sucks. However, you are in luck. There are several alternatives to toys that have rubber in their chemical…
Read the answer → ““You’re a sex educator? That’s so cool! How can I do that?” I hear some variation of this question about once a week. And I get…
Read the answer → “Hello! I love that you asked this question - I feel like this is something a lot of people wonder about. So, first thing's first: The…
Read the answer → “The prostate gland is located between the bladder and penis, just behind the rectum. It’s a gland about the size of a walnut and it can…
Read the answer → “Want to use a strapless double dildo for double penetration? Here are some tips on how to choose a harness.
Read the answer → “When you say sex with your current partner isn’t like what you remember, I am not sure what you mean. Based on your follow-up question about…
Read the answer → “Yes. The role of imagination and fantasy in orgasm can produce a sexual response that's just as intense as physical stimulation. So how does this work?…
Read the answer → “An online poll of my friends and fans showed the anal sex favorites to be Sliquid Sassy and Maximus. But please note that lube is a…
Read the answer → “Although it's not technically dangerous to wear a butt plug long term, it is important that you learn to listen to your body and know its…
Read the answer → “You are smart to ask this question. Paddles might seem like a no-brainer to some people, but not so. Size, shape and material can all have…
Read the answer → “I hear you. Many people tell me the same thing; they go go go all day and just do not have anything left when it's all…
Read the answer → “You want more licking, rubbing, thrusting, hips pointed up to the ceiling super-hot sex? I’ve got some ideas on how to create more of that in…
Read the answer → “Well, the most important thing you need to realize is that there is NOTHING wrong with you. Just because this is not working out for you…
Read the answer → “Pregnancy. Labor. Childbirth. Motherhood. It's a lot for a body to withstand. So it's perfectly natural for sex to feel different, and for you to feel…
Read the answer → “While you may feel that this is your fault, your sex life is something you are co-constructing with your partner. What you're feeling right now can…
Read the answer → “First, relax and take a deep breath. You may find it reassuring to know that there has never been a study showing that kids who discover…
Read the answer → “Sex is about more than the penis and certainly more than penis size. In fact, research has suggested that men care a lot more about penis…
Read the answer → “The first step before doing PC exercises is to know your pelvic floor anatomy. The PC muscle (pubococcygeus) is one of the pelvic floor muscles in…
Read the answer → “Your reason for faking an orgasm is a common one for women. In our orgasm-centric society, people tend to inaccurately equate orgasm with satisfaction. What is…
Read the answer → “Although the pull-out method (also called withdrawal method or coitus interruptus) is a method used by many, it is not nearly as effective as a condom…
Read the answer → “The simple answer is yes, it can feel good for men. Men have a prostate that is located inside of them and it feels incredible when…
Read the answer → “One of the best beginner products out there is the Pocket Rocket. It's powerful. It is great for clitoral stimulation. It's discreet since it looks like…
Read the answer → “No. It does not make you gay. The anal area has a lot of extremely sensitive nerve endings. You can stick anything you want into your…
Read the answer → “What a fun question! There are several ways for you to play with your husband in public and what you choose will depend on what he…
Read the answer → “That is very distressing on several levels and is probably not helping you. There are a variety of options available to you – but first, a…
Read the answer → “While the urge or desire to swallow one's own semen may not be something you see in the media or hear much about, it is not…
Read the answer → “This is a great question! Given that the toy is silicone, you are in luck because that means it's not just washable, it can actually be…
Read the answer → “What exactly do you think you need help with? Based on what you are asking me, I am lacking information to formulate a specific response. So,…
Read the answer → “The spectrum of adult human sexuality and desire encompasses a myriad of emotional needs, sexual kinks, and various fetishes. Please don't worry about whether what you're…
Read the answer → “As with any prescription medication, there shouldn’t be a huge difference between a brand-name pill and the generic kind. Lots of times insurance plans will only…
Read the answer → “Mood changes are certainly a possible side effect of birth control pills. If her birth control is reducing her sex drive, she could be feeling less…
Read the answer → “The simple answer? No. Can you have multiple orgasms? Perhaps. Every orgasm is unique to the woman experiencing it. Some women will be multi-orgasmic by nature.…
Read the answer → “In the big, general advice grand scheme of things: yes and no. Yes because people certainly have a wide range of preferences when it comes to…
Read the answer → “My advice is to first establish your desires. Are you seeking a lifestyle or a Professional Mistress? Would you prefer session-based, or 24/7 D/s? What are…
Read the answer → “You should be nervous. Constructive criticism is still criticism, and this particular topic is supremely sensitive and tied heavily to ego. The first thing you need…
Read the answer → “Every guy will give you a different answer. His favorite sex position depends upon how your bodies are shaped, how your pleasure anatomy lines up, where…
Read the answer → “I am really sorry to hear that you’re experiencing this. I can imagine it is frustrating. When it comes to performance anxiety or erectile dysfunction, there…
Read the answer → “If the lubes you’re routinely using get sticky and dry up, it sounds like you’ve been using water based lubricants. Even the best quality water based…
Read the answer → “Just get in there… Use your tongue, use your fingers. Don’t be afraid to just go for it. Pay attention to her body language and don’t…
Read the answer → “A dildo with a suction cup base would be a good choice for you. It has attachments that you can change out. You can use a…
Read the answer → “You aren’t doing anything wrong because Kegel balls don’t work the way you’ve likely been lead to believe.The Fifty Shades of Grey franchise may be partially…
Read the answer → “The number one oral tip given by adult starlets: spit, be messy. Be sloppy. Have some fun with it! It’s like if you’re not getting messy,…
Read the answer → “A lot of relationships bring in other people to experience a three-way. Sometimes that's what sex morphs into: a non-stop fucking three-way. Then, people wonder why…
Read the answer → “While a partner may never be able to mimic the intense vibrations of an Original Magic Wand, comparing motorized masturbation to partnered sex is like comparing…
Read the answer → “I’m so sorry you’ve gone through these awful experiences, and I’m very glad to hear that you’re already in therapy and that you’re continuing to reach…
Read the answer → “First off, I want to assure you that you don't have to do anything if you are not 100% comfortable with it. Dirty talk isn't everyone's…
Read the answer → “We have to give you a big thumb's down on this whole thing. There are two main points to this answer: first, if he really loves…
Read the answer → “This is a question that has come up at almost every polyamory discussion group I’ve ever participated in or facilitated. In those discussions, we’ve never been…
Read the answer → “Polyamory has as many different variations as there are poly people. My partner of almost 14 years and I are both polyamorous, but we poly very…
Read the answer → “When you have anal sex for the first time you should go very slowly and use lots of lube. A lot of the time, it’s the…
Read the answer → “There are some definite things that you need to talk about: how you’ll communicate with each other and the limits of things you both will or…
Read the answer → “You should definitely try watching porn together. You definitely need to talk to her and find out what she’s curious about. If she’s watching porn because…
Read the answer → “You're young. You need to get out there and have some fun. This is your time to explore and make new connections. This is your time…
Read the answer → “First off, have you talked to him about his porn consumption and your concerns? From the sounds of it, I am guessing not. Porn, in my…
Read the answer → “I love this idea so much. What a lovely thing to do as part of making your relationship a more formal agreement. However, I have a…
Read the answer → “First of all, take it easy on yourself. As much as it may not feel sexy, farting is a thing that happens. Also, we sometimes forget…
Read the answer → “Sadly, there is no 'Dom shop' where you can order your perfect custom built Dom to be delivered directly to your door. I know, because I…
Read the answer → “Yes, it could. There are medications prescribed for depression that have been shown to raise libido in some patients. If you are finding the new, anti-depressants…
Read the answer → “You’re already on the right track! You’ve identified how you’re feeling. Jealousy is a very common feeling in poly relationships. Here are a few ways you…
Read the answer → “Congratulations on finding someone that you want to randomly bang. Anonymous sex can be hot. Just because you are living with HIV, doesn't mean you should…
Read the answer → “It sounds a little bit like your husband has a Madonna/Whore complex. He views you as his Madonna, or a woman that is more “pure” in…
Read the answer → “Depression can have a huge impact on sexual function. Many people dealing with depression lose interest in sex either due to the symptoms of their depression…
Read the answer → “Condoms are a protective barrier that is either placed over a cock, a penis shaped toy, or in the case of internal condoms (marketed as female…
Read the answer → “Sensory deprivation is a commonly used practice in BDSM that makes us focus on our other senses by depriving us of one or more of them.
Read the answer → “Well, first you should talk to her. There is no magic formula to make a woman cum. Every woman is different. So, if you think she…
Read the answer → “This is a surprisingly difficult question to answer! In some ways, polyamory is very different from swinging. In other ways, they’re pretty similar. The short answer…
Read the answer → “First, you need to talk to him. You need to find a comfortable way to start the conversation. You could always take the initiative and do…
Read the answer → “Well, start off with something a little softer.You can start off with some vanilla mixed in to your BDSM. You could start off with some nice,…
Read the answer → “Bring toys into the bedroom and make sure that you talk to your partner. This can be a very touchy subject with men because it could…
Read the answer → “If your girlfriend is new to butt plugs, I would not recommend that she starts with glass butt plugs. These are really geared more for people…
Read the answer → “Since you've never tried double penetration before, you should start off with a toy that is slim. It's important to keep in mind that your boyfriend's…
Read the answer → “As with any anal toy, you want to make sure that you use plenty of lube. You can insert the anal beads slowly during foreplay. If…
Read the answer → “There are different things that you can do to achieve a g-spot orgasm. First, there are creams that are warming creams. You put it on your…
Read the answer → “Since pegging is a term associated with a strap-on used anally on a male partner, I don't think he's ready for pegging. It sounds more like…
Read the answer → “Forced orgasms and involuntary orgasms are often confused. Although on the surface they may seem the same, they are very different! Both of these events involve…
Read the answer → “There are a few different types of penis extenders that are available on the market. We make a product called Xtend It. It's similar to a…
Read the answer → “First, you should make sure that she is in to the idea of using Ben Wa balls. Some people do have a fear that things, such…
Read the answer → “A sex coach is a trained professional who works with clients to overcome sexual concerns. A sex coach is not a therapist. A sex coach also…
Read the answer → “Handjobs should be a basic part of your sexy time portfolio if you play with people that have a cock. It seems simple. Put hand on…
Read the answer → “It's important that both the receiver and the giver learn how to properly prepare for analingus. Although smelly asses are a particular fetish, we are going…
Read the answer → “Congratulations on making the decision to protect yourself, while also being open to dating someone living with HIV. Asking this question shows your desire to be…
Read the answer → “Ouch. I have heard about this. As long as you’re OK with why he isn’t going down, I won’t go there. However, I absolutely understand why…
Read the answer → “The short answer is yes, glass sex toys are safe to use for their designed purpose. You need to use a glass sex toy with a…
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Read the answer → “How to prepare for anal sex is actually a question that I am asked on a regular basis. The short answer: it depends. Here are a…
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Read the answer → “Sploshing, also known as the Wet and Messy (WAM) fetish, can involve the full-bodied clothed or naked enjoyment of liquids in a sexual way. These liquids…
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Read the answer → “During ejaculation, semen is ejaculated in a series of rapid-fire contractions of the penile muscles around the base of the anus. These contractions cause the "squirts"…
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Read the answer → “Establishing a person's limits when it comes to kink is a vital part of the negotiation/communication process. This is true when starting out with a new…
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Read the answer → “As with all relationships, no two D/s relationships are exactly the same. So, to make a sweeping statement either way would be wrong. However, as a…
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Read the answer → “As with all labels and terms, these words can often mean slightly different things to different people. As a general rule, however, a "bottom" is usually…
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Read the answer → “Wax play is a wonderful form of temperature or sensation play. Many people wrongly assume that it is all about burning, heat and pain but there's…
Read the answer → “It sounds like you're in a difficult situation, and one where there is no clear right or wrong answer. What do you know about the history…
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Read the answer → “This is a very common reaction for many people. We are bought up to believe that physically hurting another person is wrong, no matter what. That's…
Read the answer → “Along with spanking, caning is one of the most popular forms of pain play for adults involved in BDSM. Essentially canes are sticks used to hit…
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Read the answer → “This isn’t nearly as incongruent as you may think. First, in true BDSM relationships, the submissive is the person with the power. All it takes is…
Read the answer → “Ben Wa balls are just that, balls. They are designed for vaginal insertion, and holding them inside the body for a period of time can bring…
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Read the answer → “Trying to have simultaneous orgasms is like straining to see one of those Magic Eye pictures, except an order of magnitude more difficult. And yet, this…
Read the answer → “Men grow up with this big burden of assumed sexual knowledge, as if a copy of the "Kama Sutra" (horrible sex advice book, by the way)…
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Read the answer → “Every woman produces ejaculatory fluid. It differs from urine, and comes from the Skene's gland sometime around orgasm. Now, does that mean every woman can squirt…
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Read the answer → “Let me start off by saying that I think this is a perfectly normal and natural response. This is a well established relationship and I think…
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Read the answer → “Tantric sex is a great way to explore erotic expression and discover pleasure in all aspects of life, not only sexual expression. Sometimes, we think of…
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