For survivors, sexual health has a stronger focus on mental health. There are a lot of triggers that may come up that we cannot control. What we can control is the knowledge of grounding techniques and having someone that we can reach out to for added support during in hard times.
I think it is also important to note that while everyone says that we should all be in therapy, therapy is a privilege and not everyone can afford to attend such things, so let me offer some alternatives:
- Try working with a sexuality educator/coach/specialist that has deep knowledge in trauma
- Join a support group. Although these may be hard to find, online support groups are becoming more known and widely used. I do support groups online through my business healing intersections.
- Find something to spiritually connect with. Folks assume that I mean to jump into a church, sure if that is your jam, but, find something to believe in; something that speaks to you.
- Create a direct line to a support system of folks that you know will be there for you, whether that is via text, phone-calls or meeting up in person.
As for sexual health, make sure that when you go to your doctor, you share what feels good and also your concerns and fears. This way the doctor can better support you with their skill set. Your body your rules, but that also means it is your body to take care of.
Make sure you are continuing to have conversations about STIs, having conversations about boundaries, and having conversations about expectations in the bedroom before you get into the act. These conversations can be hard to have and may take practice. Tap into your support system that we talked about above if you want to practice some of these conversations.
