If you want this toy for vaginal action, consider fit, especially length, because some of that inherently gets lost under the harness/belly if it's too long. How much depth do you need? For oral play, width is what matters more.
Or Toy-in-Hand?
If you're using a dildo without a strap, your options expand considerably because you don’t need to worry about it being held by a harness. That means you don’t necessarily need a flanged base. Unless, of course, you're using it anally, in which case it must, must, MUST have a flanged base because stuff can get lost in the rectum. Remember: Without a base, without a trace. (Read more about what can go wrong with anal sex in You Shouldn't Have Anal Sex If ....)
In this case, you'll want to consider shapes. Do you want to feel like you are being penetrated by a penis? Well then, something more realistic may be in order. Do you want to stimulate the G-spot or prostate? This is a great time for something curved. Are you using it on yourself or someone else? If you're looking for something to use on yourself, consider mechanics; if it isn't easy to use, it won't be fun - trust me! There’s nothing worse than getting this close but having to stop because your hand has cramped up into an unrecognizable claw.
Size: Go Big or Go...You Know, Not Big, Whatever Works
Women’s magazines, comedians, and the Washington Monument have all told us that when it comes to phalluses you want to go big or go home. Seriously? No. I have a gorgeous dildo that came highly recommended. I bought it to use by myself at those times I want a penis but, you know, still want to be able to watch "Dance Moms" immediately afterward. But I don’t use it because it’s a bit thick for me to use comfortably and, you know, "Dance Moms" is on. Sad face. Here’s how you can avoid that fate.
