It's a Performance
Judging from porn, TV, and movies, every time a woman masturbates, she’s all hot and bothered, gasping for breath, boobs heaving, and when she cums she throws her head back and moans before finally collapsing in an ecstatic heap.
Uh…. no. Masturbation can be really uneventful. It can even be downright ugly. Our faces screw up as we concentrate because we need to in order to climax. Sometimes we’re watching porn. Sometimes we’re just using our imagination. Yet, the media portrays female masturbation as a way to evoke desire in others. Even when we’re all alone and pleasuring ourselves, it's apparently still supposed to be a performance.
In many cases, women take care of business without sexy lingerie, perfectly tousled hair or even audible moans of pleasure. And that's OK. It's what's happening on the inside that counts.
It's for a Certain Kind of Girl
I once had a guy tell me that his girlfriend doesn’t masturbate because she’s not a slutty girl. There is so much wrong with this statement that I don’t even know where to begin. First of all, it requires the assumption that most women don't masturbate (not true). The idea that only slutty women masturbate stems from how female masturbation is often portrayed - as something performative and for the pleasure of others. Dead wrong. The majority of women masturbate. They do it the way they want to and they do it for themselves. It's healthy and normal, and it says nothing about the kind of people they are.
