Being mentally and emotionally healthier, having fewer symptoms of depression and anxiety, and managing trauma or major life events can help you enjoy sex more because these things won't be so much in the way of your pleasure.
A therapist can also help you with body image issues, sexual shame, communication in relationships, sexual trauma, and other things that stop you from having the best sex you can have.
Work Out
There are plenty of reasons to exercise, but one of them is that it leads to better sex. Exercise strengthens your cardiovascular system (so you can go at it without losing your breath), improves muscular endurance (so you can go at it longer), and generally makes your body function more smoothly.
For women, exercise improves lubrication (through better blood flow). Working out also releases endorphins and balances hormones. If you work out with your partner, you'll get a boost of adrenaline that will remind you of your first months together, which might just make you hit the sack like you used to!
Understand and Practice Intimacy
Although many people conflate "intimacy" with "sex," sex is only one component (and not an essential one) of intimacy.
If you want to connect better during sexy times, practice intimacy with not only your partner, but also your friends and your family. Understanding how to connect with your partners will be helpful in creating a better sex life.
Here are a few suggestions to increase your sense of intimacy with others:
- Turn off the phone. TURN IT OFF. Seriously. Put it away.
- Learn how to actively listen. Don't daydream or let your thoughts drift off. Just listen to the other person.
- Practice non-sexual physical intimacy by holding hands, hugging, and cuddling with your partner(s) and/or friends.
- Tell those you love how much you appreciate them. Thank them sincerely for something they have done for you.
- Open up your feelings and express them without reserve. When someone expresses their feelings to you, listen without judging.
Being able to connect deeply and intimately with someone will definitely show up in your sex life. Unconnected sex is bad sex; it's all in the connection.
