Sex Stories We Love: A Million Wicked Sex Toys, Faking Foreplay & Lesbian Bed Death Myths

A Million Wicked Sex Toys

Down the Rabbit Hole: What One Million Sex Toys Reveal About Our Erotic Tastes, Kinks and Desires has to be the second largest data dump revealing the details of the sex lives of people since Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam’s A Billion Wicked Thoughts. Researcher and big data journalist Jon Millward spent over a year analyzing who bought one million sex toys and other related products from a single retailer, Lovehoney. He turned the data insideout and sideways to look at who bought Lovehoney’s items (50% men/50% women), how much they spent (an average of £35/$56.93 US), and what they bought (the Top 3 leading product categories were lubes/essentials, vibrators and lingerie).

How Millward breaks down the data busts a lot of assumptions about who buys sex toys, especially the fact that half of Lovehoney’s customers are men. For instance, 1 in 5 men buy vibrators compared to 1 in 20 women, and 64% percent of the people that buy sexy shoes are men. Aside from researching and writing, we think Millward will be spending a lot of time advising adult novelty stores and websites how to rebrand themselves to appeal to both women and men.

Do Women Fake Orgasms Because Men Fake Foreplay?

Bella Bliss suggests one of the reasons some women fake orgasms is because we’re not doing foreplay right. She contends that great foreplay doesn’t just arouse a woman’s genitals, but her mind and other parts of her body, as well. Bella also believes that men who rush through orgasms are cheating themselves, too. “Men need long foreplay too, to build the sexual energy gradually so they can last longer, connect deeper to their partner, and develop higher sensitivity,” she says.

Extended foreplay and slow sex isn’t something that only Bella advocates. Dorothy Black of the Daily Dot shares her real-life experience in a recent post. Prepare to get sizzled and sauced all over.

Rethinking Lesbian Bed Death

On average, lesbian couples have sex less often than their heterosexual and gay male counterparts. However, a recent post in Justin Lehmiller’s Sex and Psychology blog says that it doesn’t mean that lesbian couples are necessarily less sexually satisfied than other couples. He cites a recent study that reveals that lesbians engage in significantly longer durations of sexual activity when they do have sex and that there were no differences in sexual satisfaction compared to other couple types.

Not performing well? Blame your job.

In a recent article, Dr. Scott Gledhill says that problems at work can often lead to problems in the bedroom for men. He refers to a study indicating men who reported one or more sexual difficulties in the past 12 months were 1.8 times higher among men who reported having workplace difficulties than men who had no problems at work. The time people spend checking in on work on their off hours doesn’t help either. The problem is further compounded when work stress affects the frequency of sex, which in turn causes more stress. Having a doctor prescribe a little blue pill can help, but so can addressing and managing workplace stress too. He doesn’t address how stress at work can affect women, but it’s safe to assume that it can be a libido crusher that should be addressed as well.

The Biggest Dicks in Porn

This isn’t about which men have the biggest dicks on screen, but how the dicks who post and download free porn are cannibalizing their sources of XXX entertainment. Thedirtyname explains how pirates affect how porn is made and the livelihoods of the producers, performers and crew who make it. To make a long story (and it is fairly long) short, thedirtyname puts it like this: “If one-third of the people who viewed my two-minute teasers had bought the full scenes, I’d have been able to fund another five scenes already.”

Can Sex Affect the Size of the Vagina?

We’ve all heard the snarky jokes about women who have lots of sex having vaginas the size of the Holland Tunnel. That’s not at all true, says Dr. Laura Streicher, associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University. “The female body is designed to adjust to be elastic and expand to accommodate everything from a large penis to childbirth,” she explains. Still not convinced or want to know how and why? Mchaguzi has the deets.