The Partnered Pillow Pleasure position uses a sex toy mount shaped as a pillow to offer hands-free pleasure in this from-behind position.
To get into this sex position, slide your choice of vibrator into your Liberator Humphrey. Once it's there, the receiving partner straddles the Humphrey and leans forward onto their hands. They then lower their hips until they make contact with the vibrator in the spot they'd like. Once the receiver is in position, the penetrating partner kneels behind them, sliding inside.
More about the Partnered Pillow Pleasure Sex Position
With the help of a sex toy mount, the Partnered Pillow Pleasure position provides hands-free stimulation for the receiver. Not only can this help close the orgasm gap with penis-in-vagina sex, but it also frees up the hands, keeping them available to touch, caress, and snuggle your lover.
The Partnered Pillow Pleasure position does this with the help of a Liberator Humphrey. The Humphrey is a sex toy mount that looks like a standard household pillow, but is actually so much more. It's made from high-density foam and includes multiple ways to mount sex toys in and on top of it. The Humphrey can hold your favorite wand massagers, penis strokers, or vibrators so you can use them during intercourse without having to hold them yourself.
While the Partnered Pillow Pleasure illustration showcases a wand massager, the Humphrey can hold a cased penis stroker as well. Receiving partners with a penis can slide inside a stroker while someone slides into them from behind, so they can experience both anal and penile stimulation in the Partnered Pillow Pleasure position!
If a Liberator Humphrey isn't around, you may be able to DIY a solution. Using an extra-firm pillow for the best support, you can use rope bondage to secure a vibrator to a bed pillow, sliding it underneath the both of you.
You can also go a different direction and use a hands-free saddle vibrator, like the Orion VibePad 2, sliding it underneath the receiving partner instead of using a pillow.
While the movement of some sex positions can make it difficult for the receiving partner to maintain contact with a vibrator, the Partnered Pillow Pleasure position actually does the opposite! The downwards angle of the position will continually push the receiver's body into the vibrator. For receiving partners who love firm pressure, this can be a one-way ticket to orgasm-town.
For receiving partners who need a lighter touch, make sure lines of communication stay open, so the receiving partner can ask for less thrust pressure when necessary. Especially as the two of you get caught up on the ascent to orgasm, it can be easy to accidentally thrust too firmly, causing the receiving partner to press further into the vibrator than they'd like.
Modifying the Partnered Pillow Pleasure Position
As shown, the Partnered Pillow Pleasure position can place a lot of strain on the receiver's back. As the two of you press more firmly into the toy under the receiver, the angle of the bend in the back will get even more extreme, adding more load onto the lower back.
This can be an uncomfortable stretch for most people. We simply don't move our bodies like that on a regular basis!
In addition to some exercise warm-ups for your back before engaging in the Partnered Pillow Pleasure position, there are a few other ways to modify this position to reduce the lower back load:
Ensure the penetrating partner is holding their own weight
Especially as the two of you get closer to orgasm, it can be easier for the penetrating partner to "rest" more of their lower body weight onto the receiving partner's hips. Added weight pushes the receiver's hips further into the bed, increasing the lower back load.
Regroup and ensure the penetrating partner isn't resting any weight on the receiver.
Elevate the Humphrey by placing something underneath it
This reduces how far the hips need to travel downwards. Stuff some pillows underneath the Humphrey, or place it on top of a sturdy box on top of your bed.
Bring the receiving partner's chest down, and have the receiver come onto their forearms
While this will change the angle of the Partnered Pillow Pleasure position, it will also reduce the extreme lower back angle, placing the spine in a more neutral position.
Even with these changes, the Partnered Pillow Pleasure position will not be for everyone. We recommend a conversation about accessibility and feasibility before attempting the Partnered Pillow Pleasure. And be comfortable with pivoting a different position if this option isn't working out for you.
Remember: sex is about pleasure and connection, and your sex position isn't supposed to get in the way of that!
