Any kind of relationship can have ups and downs—including the one you have with masturbation! If your self-love relationship with your penis doesn’t have enough ups and downs, then it might be time to shake things differently. Masturbation is a wonderful way to feel good, de-stress and experience fantastic pleasure. But if you find yourself in a wanking rut, try these eight exciting escapes from typical techniques.
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Get Stoked for Strokers
Roll down your sleeves and get down to business. Strokers can provide incredible simulation into your stimulation.Penis strokers and sleeves have exploded onto the scene and folks are loving them. By combining the sensation of penetrative sex with do-it-yourself convenience, these devices offer incredible pleasure and self-love learning opportunities.
Strokers allow you to control your own pace while at the same time providing sensation that isn’t your own hand. It might feel like you’re with another person or something entirely different—but you remain solely in control of your pleasure. They are fantastic training devices for those who want to learn to control their sensations and reactions when they are playing with partners.
Strokers come in a vast array of patterns and textures and functions. Some even hide in plain sight as objets d’art—for those who want to keep their penis pleasure product nice and handy. Not all strokers rely on your hand to do the heavy lifting. Check out the EXO stroker, which attaches around your torso and delivers pleasure with every thrust of your hips for an all together different and fantastic experience.
Some strokers can do all the work for you! Check out our review of the KIIROO KEON and the Chrysm Sleeve by The Handy.
Lube or No Lube?
Folks usually fall into one of two camps: lube or no lube. Not only can the other be explored, but a third option just might add a new dimension of pleasure.
However, regardless of which side of the fence you stroke on, taking a trip to the other side just might liven up your play. If you’re used to going dry, drizzle a little lube on your cock and slip and slide your way to sexy times. If you usually get slick, mix things up by experiencing all of the sensitivity your bare skin has to offer during a dry session. If you find you like both, a third option can be experimenting with different types of lube for different sensations. Silicone, water-based, oil-based, heating, cooling - there are many fantastic possibilities!
Read: 7 Ways to Incorporate More Lube Into Sex With Yourself
Take It to the Edge
When you have some time to put into your self-love schedule, edging can draw your pleasure out and make it unbelievable.Do you ever get the feeling that sex is sometimes a rush to the finish? We often put so much emphasis on reaching orgasm that the sensations leading up to that moment of ecstasy are sometimes forgotten. Think about it: what do you really love about sex? Is it the final, glorious but short-lived destination or all of the sights, sounds, and sensuality of the journey? If your vote falls with the latter, you definitely need to try edging. As a practice, edging is based as much on patience and control as it is on enduring.
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Find a New Path to Pleasure
Countless different sensations are just a few inches away from your front fun. Take a trip on the back road of uncharted sexual adventure.
Let’s be honest: you can’t read a sex advice article these days without some mention of butt sex. There are a couple good reasons for that: anal pleasure is no longer a taboo subject and, well, it can feel fantastic! However, more often than not, anal sex is most frequently connected to partnered sex.
No butts about it, though, anal pleasure is a wonderful addition to masturbation all on its own. One of the great things about playing with your bum is that there are many different possibilities to explore. Inside and out there are many different ways to stimulate your butt cheeks, perineum, anus, prostate and more. If it feels great, touch the outside skin of your anus, and experiment with and without lube. If you’re going in for some sexy penetration, be sure to use lots of slippery liquid.
As a bonus, having fun with your own ass can have great effects when it comes to partnered sex. You will understand what you do and do not enjoy back there on your own body (and can communicate that) and you will have a better idea of what might feel good for your partner when they invite you in the back way.
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Other Roads Less-Traveled
Your body has countless nerve-endings, some of which you might never think to touch while you stimulate your penis.For many folks, masturbation is rushed and entirely focused on our genitals. It has often been reduced to being a utilitarian act, carried out with a “get ‘er done” mentality. So, our hands just head south by instinct. Unfortunately, with such driven hands, many different sexy hot spots are being missed.
Our whole body is one big bag of sensuality waiting to be explored! So, instead of reaching down impulsively, let those hands take some side trips. When you become aroused, touch parts of your body that you have never touched in a sexual way before - scalp, armpits, nipples, the soles of your feet - what else can you think of? Your body has a lot of pleasure to offer, you just need to find it.
You don't have to limit yourself to just one kind of stimulation at a time either! Using a sleeve like the EXO that leaves your hands free means you can explore other bodily delights without foregoing penis pleasure.
Withdraw from the Spank Bank
Porn and erotica are fantastic fodder for masturbatory fun, but the most powerful images are probably right there in your mind.
However, let’s remember the power of our brains and how we can use them to recall our past experiences. Making a withdrawal from the spank bank can provide a great change of pace if your searches and bookmarks are getting a little stale.
Let It Go!
Sex products that focus on penis pleasure are one of the biggest markets being developed today. Exploring new toys can provide new masturbation thrills.
Saying that something is “next level” is fairly cliched these days. However, when it comes to sex toys, we are in an age where next-level doesn’t even cut it. Pleasure products have upped the solo sex game so much, and it is only getting better. Recent years have seen a boom in the quality of sexual devices, but also in sophistication. Now, we barely have to control our sex toys.
Sure, we already talked about switching up your hand routine, but now some penis toys offer an entirely hands-free experience!
Having your hands free to roam your body or enjoy other entertainment while your junk is significantly pleasured is an erotic dream. Hands-free products are a tremendous advancement for folks who have dexterity considerations and may have difficulty manipulating other devices.
And some can even be used when the penis is erect or flaccid—a great advancement for those who live with erectile dysfunction.