Ask anyone who knows anything about BDSM, and they're sure to say finding an experienced submissive or dominant among all the passionate but clueless wannabes or those who want things their way or the highway, can be rather frustrating.
Why, they rightfully bemoan, can't there be a way for earnest slaves to put their well-earned, kinky-bona-fides out there; a place where they can proudly proclaim, "I really do know what being a BDSM submissive is all about"?
Well, hang onto your leather chaps 'cause I've got some great news for all you more-than-capable slaves— or folx looking for submissives who understand the differences between enjoying a kinky fantasy and playing in the real world. There really is a BDSM slave registry site where knowledgeable submissives can put themselves out there.
The only question remaining is if this slave registry is something every true-blue submissive should join — or is it an idea whose time hasn't yet (please excuse the expression) come?
SR: Slave Reg(istry) allows both submissives and dominants to sign up. Submissives the option to receive an "SR Number:" a lifelong identification that can be used to activate a free membership account where they can post pictures, search for dominants, or update their BDSM status. When they first join the site, slaves also have the option to say if they're in a relationship or owned by someone, and include a link to their own site or a Fetlife profile.
Overall, the site is pretty basic, to put it mildly. Users have the option to print out a nifty little card with their slave registry number on it — or pay extra for an identification card with more bells and whistles. And Slave Reg(istry) appears to be less about finding kinky playmates and more about slaves getting to establish their BDSM credentials.
As someone who was a full-time, as in 24/7, collared and contracted slave for five or so years and an active participant in the Bay Area kink scene since 1988, I feel like the idea of a slave registry is a sound, and urgently needed. But I remain somewhat on the fence about how effective sites like Slave Reg(istry) really are. Currently, there are no real checks or balances, meaning submissives with decades of responsible scene play get lumped in with those with little or no real experience.
Still, I could easily see my Mistress ordering me to sign, if for no other reason than to make our relationship a little more "official" in the eyes of the BDSM community.
A friend and fellow submissive expressed the same, telling me, "Not sure not much good it'll do me but feels good to do it," while another noted, "Hopefully shows I'm serious about my kinks."
When all's said and done, deciding if registering with a slave registry is worth the effort, it's really up to you and/or the person or people you're playing with or owned by. Personally, I feel doing so is one of those "might as well" things since filling out the necessary paperwork doesn't take very long and, aside from a few relatively minor for-pay features, Slave Reg(istry) doesn't cost anything.
And as my friends pointed out, having your very own registration number could help convince other kinksters you're serious about being a BDSM slave.
But regardless of the site, think once, twice, and more than a few thrices before doing anything on the net— let alone putting yourself out there as a slave. Fortunately, unless you do something like upload a picture of yourself or list something in your bio that can easily be connected back to your "civilian life," Slave Reg(istry) seems relatively safe to use.
Before winding up this look at BDSM slave registries, I want to take a moment to remind submissives and dominants alike that though it may look the opposite in adult videos, erotic books, and stories, or anywhere else kinky fiction may cross your path, the undeniable reality is the person in control isn't your Master or Mistress but you, their slave. After all, it's your physical and mental health on the line, and, of course, dominants risk the same. No one's ego or fantasies should ever interfere with treating you not as a piece of property but as a living, breathing person.
What does this have to do with BDSM slave registries? Well, it's a loud, flashing red light with a siren if your dominant commands you to sign without asking you first. Take this as a warning you may want to reevaluate your relationship with them instead of telling the world you belong to someone who actually doesn't respect you.
