Know What You Like
Once you know what options exist it’s time to find the ones that will make up your sexual toolbox. Whether it’s the condom that you can barely feel, the lube that makes everything feel just that little bit nicer, or the dam that comes in a flavor you can’t wait to put your mouth on, get out there and find your favorites. Enlist a partner to help you hunt. Seriously, can you think of a more fun testing process?
Stock Up and Keep It Nearby
Once you have found what you like, make sure you have a ton of it on hand at all times. Build a safer sex arsenal. One of the biggest spoils to good intentions is lack of preparation, so always be prepared. I have put together my safety kit in this old school, kind of glam, make-up case. Check it: Regular condoms, female condoms, flavored condoms, dental dams, nitrile gloves and two kinds of lube - all at the ready. This kind of set-up saves you from frantic late-night runs to the pharmacy or (perhaps more likely) just saying "what the hell?!" and forgoing the safety measures altogether.
Talk, Talk ... and Then Talk Some More
I’ve made no secret of the fact that I think we need to talk more about our sex. I recently found this amazing website called beforeplay.org devoted entirely to the concept of talking openly before sex. LOVE this! Another favorite of mine comes from sex educator Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com. Reid’s Safer Sex Elevator Speech is an amazing tool for initiating the safer sex conversation. I love the Elevator Speech because it is quick and easy, allowing both partners to get on the same page and quickly get on their way to getting it on.
