For a service top, the pleasure in any given scene comes from knowing just how much they can make their bottom feel good. Devoting time to planning for and executing their bottom’s ideal scenes can be a turn on, and they will take instruction from their submissive as to what the submissive wants, often allowing the submissive to dictate how the scene should play out before finally, showering them with extensive aftercare.
Top vs. Dominant
As mentioned earlier, the terms “top” and “dominant” are often used interchangeably but that is not actually correct. A top is responsible for carrying out the activities on their bottom in a scene. If the bottom is being flogged, tied up, electro-stimulated, or even tickled, the top is doing it. They are responsible for providing a safe and satisfying experience.
A dominant or Dom/Domme is a partner who takes control in a BDSM dynamic which may be in place of a scene, a night, or an entire relationship. So, while a Dom might be a top, a top will not necessarily be a Dom.
“We often think of a dominant as someone being pleased and a submissive as someone who loves to please, but power dynamics need not limit who gives and receives pleasure. One way to enjoy being a service top to a submissive partner is to blindfold them and/or tie them to the bed and pleasure them until they can't take it anymore. You can also experiment with orgasm denial — bringing them close to orgasm, stopping, then repeating until they finally climax, or allowing them to orgasm only when you say they can," says Anna Richards, founder of the erotic ethical porn site FrolicMe.com