Who qualifies as a zaddy?
Is there a narrow definition of who qualifies as a Zaddy? Depending on who you talk to, it seems that more than anything, zaddy is a state of mind. The term can be applied to people of any gender or parental status and is indeed, often applied to childfree individuals. The truth is, it’s mostly about a vibe that lies in the eye of the beholder.
The other factor that is consistently mentioned in the zaddy discussion is age — a zaddy is assumed to be older than the person bestowing the title on them. Though, that is also up for debate.
“There is an ongoing debate about whether age is a determining factor for being considered a Zaddy.”says Dirty Lola, Sex Educator, Edutainer, Dildo Slinger and host of Sex Ed A Go Go. “Personally, I believe that being a Zaddy is less about a specific age and more about displaying maturity, style, swagger, confidence, and, of course, sporting a well-groomed beard... The notion of a Zaddy extends beyond age and focuses on an individual's overall allure and attractiveness”
Zaddy vs. Daddy
In any discussion of the term zaddy, there is almost always mention of the term daddy, and the general concept of masculinity. While it is true that people who find themselves described by each of these terms might share a lot of the same features, there are some important distinctions that separate that zaddies from the daddies.
According to Brandon Simpson, AMFT, ASAT, an LGBTQ Associate Marriage and Family Therapist at Novus Mindful Life, “Zaddy is a sexually attractive older man. However, to be a Zaddy, instead of a daddy, there is usually a societal sexual appeal with a sense of fashion and confidence.”