Of course, even though my mother had not indicated it, it became clear to me that sex was a topic that I wanted to explore. As it turned out, a lot people around me weren't comfortable with me talking about it or me making them talk about it. So, I respected their boundaries. (Read: What I Learned from My Mom's Negative View of Sex.)
Sex Doesn't Have to Be Taboo or Dirty
A few years after my sexual education commenced, I found a dirty magazine. That was the complete illustration of the things that I had been thinking about. I am not even sure I was thinking about the act of sex yet, but after that magazine I sure was! It was filled with screenshots from different movies, mostly with busty women in every position. That and lesbians. There were no gay men. That would come later. My feelings about porn were aroused during an event for Math Magazine at Babeland on feminist porn. Because I was so young when I was exposed to porn, I never had any reservations about it. My education and thoughts about it continue to evolve. (Read: Porn: Love It or Leave It?)
And that's just the thing with sex: it does not have to be taboo or dirty. I remember asking my mother what a blow job was when I was in the sixth grade. At this point, she had plied me with books like "Changing Bodies, Changing Lives" and she told me to refer to my book. My mother promoted self discovery. When I turned to the page that told me what a blow job was, my face was hot. Someone had said it to me and I had asked my mother! I mean, talking about sex hypothetically and in theory was cool, but my personal experience has always been very private.
