What is the Bed Humping Masturbation Sex Position?

More About the Bed Humping Sex Position

Masturbating with just your hand can feel a bit old after awhile. When you want to mix it up, the Bed Humping position gives you exactly what you're looking for. Entirely hands-free, this position lets an anal plug and your grinding body doing all of the hard work.

Not only does this help simulate intercourse, it can also just feel hot and primal in its own right! Grinding up against something can help activate all those parts of our brain that feel really turned on by that "gotta have it now" erotic passion.

If you need a bit of extra stimulation, the Bed Humping position also plays well with some adult content. Put a cell phone in front of you, resting on the surface beneath you, to watch videos. Put on some headphones to listen to an erotic audiobook or some ASMR porn. If you have the core strength to regularly move your arms, you can pull up an erotica e-book on a device in front of your head. And since this masturbation position is hands-free, you'll still have a finger to turn the pages!

Make it even better

The grindable surface beneath you will play a large part in how much you enjoy the Bed Humping position. If the surface beneath you doesn't provide enough pleasure, you might find this position a tease. Whether that's a good thing or a bad thing is up to how you view it! To add stimulation, experiment with modifying the surface you're grinding into.

Some options can include:

Adding a pillow underneath your body. Try different pillow densities to change sensation. You can also ball up the pillow or smoosh it into the shape that would feel most pleasurable to you.
Adding a lay-flat penis stroker underneath the body. Something like the Men Wand can be placed under your body to grind against.
Tuck a wand massager up against the bed and use a pillow to help it stay in place while you grind against it.
Adding a grinding vibrator underneath the body. Something like the Wild Flower Enby 2 or the Rocks-Off Ruby Glow can offer targeted stimulation with added vibrations to add more sensation.
Using sex furniture to hold a toy underneath the body. This can be a great fit for something like the Axis and a wand massager or the On a Mission with a penis stroker.

Choosing the right butt plug for bed humping

Your choice of butt plug is important in the Bed Humping position. It's vital to use a toy that stays inside of the butt. While there's a lot more wiggle room on plug designs when you're sitting on top of a plug, you won't be sitting in this masturbation position.

Instead, all of the thrusting and movement of the Bed Humping will put pressure on the pelvic floor, pushing less-secure plugs out of the butt as you play. Make sure you're familiar with your chosen butt plug and how well it stays in your body to avoid frustrating breaks mid-play. We're especially fond of the staying power of the b-Vibe Snug Plugs with their super-slender retention bases.

Even when using the best of butt plugs, be prepared for it to slide out and onto the surface beneath you at the moment of orgasm. The contractions can be intense... yes, even intense enough to force a toy out of your body!

If it fits into your pleasure plans, you can also get around some of the concerns about wiggling butt plugs by using an anal plug harness.

The Bed Humping may not be a good fit for all bodies. It can be especially taxing on the lower back and neck, and the grinding motion requires core strength and upper body strength to hold the body up. If this sex position doesn't feel good to your body, don't use it! Masturbation is supposed to be about feeling pleasure and enjoying yourself - and a painful position detracts from that.

Instead, choose a different masturbation position that feels good on your body; there are hundreds of others that can be a better fit.