While we're always talking about the importance of communication here at Kinkly, there's a drastic difference between informational talking about sex - and dirty talking about sex. While one is there to impart information and help you both make informed, consensual decisions to decide what to do, the other is designed to arouse - and titillate.
The line between the two doesn't need to be as clear-cut as you'd think, though. As long as the basics have been discussed in a non-arousing fashion (like what activities you'd like to do and your hard limits) a lot of people can find it fun to mix dirty talk and clear communication.
There's a vast difference between "What would you like to plan for tonight?" and "So, after we get done with making out, is it okay if I slowly draw you over my knee to spank you like the bad person you've been?"
Of course, dirty talk doesn't have to be about negotiation at all, either! Sometimes, it's just hot-as-hell to hear someone spewing erotic, dirty, fucking naughty words that most of us don't hear on a daily basis - especially when those lascivious words are accompanied by racy visuals, steamy physical pleasure, and the warming skin of your partner's flesh on yours. Bonus points if those seductive words are powering a vibrator that's pleasuring your partner even more.
Have you tried dirty talk? To help offer suggestions based on your experience level, we've teamed up with Satisfyer - the maker of fantastic app-controlled toys that can vibrate to the sound of your voice! Take our quiz to find out how good at dirty talk you are - and get some suggestions to improve your skills while you're at it!
Talking about sex is different from sexy talk. Let our quiz tell you just how good you are at the sexiest of dirty talk!
