Kinkly: What’s behind the name?
Sinclair Sexsmith: My ex girlfriend used to joke that I "wasn't really butch - more like a sugar butch," because I was a poet, was all sensitive with the feelings, and was other things that "real butches" weren't.
Kinkly: Who’s your target reader?
Sinclair Sexsmith: Queers, but anybody interested in queering their sex life and being smart about gender and power. Butches and femmes and folks who are smart about and fucking with gender, kinksters of all stripes, but especially those interested in power dynamics, people into strap-on sex, people into personal empowerment. Generally, I say I'm at the intersection of feminism, queerness, genderqueerness and BDSM.
Kinkly: What’s unique about your blog?
Sinclair Sexsmith: The very personal writings about my own life, and also the dirty smut stories. I think both of those set me apart from other sex blogs, which are often less personal and more advice-oriented, or more focused on toys. I like reviews, don't get me wrong, but I like storytelling even more.
Kinkly: What is the topic you find yourself covering most often and why?
Sinclair Sexsmith: Strap-on sex. I'm a bit of an expert, and I love it (so so much). So, because I've written about it so much - in smut, through toy reviews, and so now, people come to me and ask me questions about it and send me products to consider. I love writing about it.
Kinkly: What was your most popular post ever? Why do you think it drew so many readers?
Sinclair Sexsmith: No. 1, but only by a thin margin, is "Are you Femme Enough for the Femme Conference?" - it hits on a very, very common issue in the butch and femme worlds, and in many identity-based communities, which is being "enough", fitting enough of the stereotype, and feeling excluded from groups based on identity. This one was timely, published just before the 2012 National Femme Conference, and it got passed around a lot. It's also a good example of some of my identity and gender theory and cultural commentary.
