Why Try Aural Sex?
It’s the most fun way to tackle a serious topic
If there's anything that scores points in the sack it's enthusiasm, but enthusiastic consent is a stumbling block for many people who feel that it ruins the moment. In reality, dirty talk is a great way to say you're in while still building arousal.
You know what’s hotter than a partner touching you in a new way? A partner telling you how much they want to touch you in that way, giving you the chance to say oh hell yes. Suddenly, sexual consent stops being a stumbling block on the way to the good stuff and becomes a stepping stone to making the stuff we do good. This is especially true when you're with a new partner or you're trying something new with an old partner.
Read: Yes! Why Consent Is Totally Sexy
It can make good sex even better
Speaking of making the stuff we do good, the best thing about dirty talk is that it gets people talking about sex, which is always a good thing. According to a 2012 study by researcher Elizabeth Babin at Cleveland Ohio University, chatty lovers tend to have greater sexual satisfaction because they communicate what they want.
Your partner isn't a mind reader; building communication into lovemaking can heat things up - and improve the chances that you'll get what you want.
How to Get Dirty
Breaking out of your sexual mime box
For some people, talking dirty can feel like diving into performative, porn-star sex. That can be a huge leap for more, shall we say ... demure lovers. The first step to making it all more manageable is to keep it simple and keep it real. Forget about parroting all the dirty-talk stereotypes you may have heard; not all penises are "so big" not all vaginas are "so tight" and sometimes, announcing that your partner has been "very, very bad" just comes off weird.
