We all know that stimulating a man’s cock is a sure way to get him to orgasm. Yet, there’s something to be said about the delicious tension that leads up to that moment. Except for the occasional hot and passionate quickie, foreplay is integral to great sex. Pleasuring him before the main event doesn’t have to be relegated to just a blowjob. Did you realize there are a myriad of other pleasure zones that you can stimulate and have him salivating and begging for more? Prolonging foreplay can lead to more satisfying orgasms for both of you. Start by paying attention to these three areas of his body and you will have him twisting and turning in delight and raring to go!
Erotic Place #1 - Above the Shoulders
Okay, this is a weird category, but there are so many places above the shoulders to explore! Kissing is a given, but try something new. Instead of staying on his lips, branch out. Starting with his ears, softly trace the outer rim of his ear from top curve to lobe. End that expedition by taking his lobe in your mouth to be tantalized by your tongue or a little nibble (if you think he would enjoy that). While you’re there, whisper something filthy, sexy, and romantic into his ear. If you can’t think of anything sexy to say, a good default is to tell him how this is making you feel. Everyone likes to know the steamy affect they have on their partner. Always remember to use your hands; cradle his face or run your fingers through his hair.
Next, plant little kisses that lead the way from under his earlobe to his chin and then down to his neck. Stop and spend some quality time in the area where his beard-line ends. Lapping with the flat of your tongue and dragging the tip up to the other earlobe and back as well as softly kissing this area should make him jelly in your hands. Bring all this "heady" attention to a climax by slithering down to where his neck joins his shoulder and collarbone.
If he didn’t have shivers before, he will now. Tracing, licking, and kissing from shoulder to collarbone is a huge turn on. If you know your man has sensitive nipples, take a moment and gently tweak, twist, or just touch them depending on what he likes. Of course, there’s nothing wrong about taking a break from your attention to his neck to suck on those sensitized nipples.
Erotic Place #2 - The Armpits
I know, I know, but his pits really have great potential for sexual excitement. This often forgotten area is a hot bed of nerve endings and pheromones that seldom get attention. Pheromones produce the natural scent men and women exude that attracts a mate. Chances are good that he’s never had a lover pay attention to that area of his body. He’ll be a bit surprised when he sees you going there.
Move your partner’s arm above his head, look him straight in the eye, and softly start to run your tongue over the area just below where the patch of hair begins. Keep your eyes on him and note if he tingles or twitches with delight. This is a good rule of thumb for all of these erotic spots. All men may not respond the same way. His reactions will clue you in to what makes his toes curls and what leaves him flat. If you know that he’s ticklish, try more of a "massage" approach instead of light licks and kisses.
If you’re unsure if he’s enjoying it, you check in with him and say and seductively whisper, "Do you like that?" If all signs are a go, continue on slowly to the center of the pit. Gently massage with your mouth and your nose. Gently tug on his hair with your lips. At the same time you can use your fingers to lightly stroke the inside of his arm and elbow, possibly throwing in a few soft licks for good measure. Then, watch his eyes roll back in his head.
Erotic Place #3 - Inner Thighs
I haven’t met a man yet who doesn’t enjoy a little inner thigh stimulation. Chances are that he doesn’t even know it’s a hot spot yet. Have him spread his legs wide enough so you can get in very close. Start by grazing his inner thighs with your fingertips and nails. At the top of his inner thighs, you might notice a little bald spot or the area where the hair line from his legs end. Lower your head and get to work on this area! Try light tongue flicks, circles and kisses, and then trail up the top of his thigh with your tongue to his torso. This is the place that you should begin another oral assault. Always remember to make use of idle hands. Caress and skim his outer thighs and back of his knees with a free hand. Of course you can always take a brief detour to fondle his balls, cock, and perineum so they don’t feel neglected.
There are plenty more ways to get him hot and bothered before you even go for the family jewels. It is important to note that every man is different. If he doesn’t respond to these three places, I guarantee there are many more spots on him you can try that will be susceptible to your specific, sensual charms. The key is to explore and experiment! You both might end up with further places to stimulate!
Writer, sex educator and coach, Elle Chase curates popular feminist, erotic images blog www.LadyCheeky.com (NSFW). Her work revolves around pleasure-focused, sensual, self expression with a strong emphasis toward positive body image. LadyCheeky.com is proud to be one of the sites named by Salon.com as “The Best of Tumblr Porn” and SmutForSmarties.com was awarded "Best Sex Blog" by the prestigious LA Weekly.
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