Read: Sexual Passion: How to Build and Sustain a Super-Hot Sex Life
Learn About Anatomy
One of the big holes in sex education is an ignorance of anatomy. Many people have little understanding of pleasure zones (all of them!), how they work, or various kinds of play. Get a book or start looking up how your own and your partners’ bodies work. I’d highly recommend Dr. Jack Morin’s "Anal Pleasure and Health,"Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian’s "Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure," and Tristan Taormino's "The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation."
(When you know where your pleasure zones are, you can learn how to hit them! Check out The 5 Best Sex Positions for G-Spot Orgasms.)
Watch a Movie
Porn gets a lot of bad press, but some porn is incredibly useful for expanding your own repertoire of information and tips. Some is even structured to educate about particular pleasure zones, certain sex acts, and more. I’d highly recommend any of Tristan Taormino’s films, which cover a wide range of topics from female anal play to kinky sex.
Get a Blindfold
Sensory play is an amazing experience. Maybe you’re just starting out, using the warm oil from massage candles, grazing an ice cube along your partner’s inner thigh, or dusting flavored powder over them with a feather. Or, maybe you’re more experienced, using wax, bondage, and the sharp edge of a knife. Using a blindfold and taking away one sense can heighten all of the other ones and make the receiver more aware of every light touch. This helps build anticipation.
