A FFF threesome is group sex involving three people who identify as female. This type of threesome involves female-female sexual activity between some or all of the participants. It can have several dynamics, such as everyone interacting sexually, one person focusing on two people, two people focusing on one person, or two people interacting sexually while the third person watches them. It is sometimes called an FFF threeway, a lesbian threesome, or a lesbian threeway.
Like an MMM threesome, all participants in an FFF threesome enjoy same-sex sexual interactions.
How common are FFF threesomes?
It’s difficult to determine how common FFF threesomes are, as most studies of threesomes focus on mixed-sex threesomes. The limited studies that exist are also small in scale, so it’s unclear whether the results represent the wider population. Some people who engage in FFF threesomes may also be unwilling to share their sexual habits publicly, leading to an underreporting of FFF threesomes.
A survey by licensed clinical sexologist Michele O’Mara, PhD, gives some insight into how common FFF threesomes are. She asked participants whether they've had lesbian threesomes with their partner and another person. Just 6% said they’d had more than one threesome with a partner while 5% said they’d had a threesome with a partner once. Threesomes seem to be more common among single lesbians, as 31% said they’d had a threesome at some point in their lives. While the participants identified as lesbian, it’s unclear whether they had FFF threesomes or mixed-sex threesomes. While people volunteered information about their single behaviors, the wording of the question may also have alienated people who weren’t in relationships. By focusing on lesbians, O’Mara’s survey may have excluded bisexual people who identify as female.
Sex researcher Dr. Justin Lehmiller found that threesomes were the most common fantasy for Americans when surveying more than 4,000 people for his 2018 book “Tell Me What You Want.” He found 87% of women fantasized about having sex with multiple partners. A Canadian study also found nearly 37% of women had fantasized about having an FFF threesome, many more than the 30.9% who fantasized about having a threesome with two men. However, O’Mara’s research suggests lesbians may be less likely to have this fantasy than straight women, or they’re reluctant to act on it. She found 58% of lesbians have not had a threesome with a partner, and don’t want to. Just 8% hadn’t had a threesome, but wanted to.
Other Threesome Combos and How They Compare
An FFF threesome is just one potential threesome combination. An MMM threesome is the all-male equivalent of an FFF threesome. Both of these kinds of threesomes feature same-sex sexual activity.
Mixed-gender threesomes feature same-sex and male-female sexual activity. There are MMF threesomes, which feature male-male and male-female sexual activity, and FFM threesomes, which feature female-female and male-female sexual activity.
There are also threesomes featuring only male-female sexual activity. For these threesomes, the people of the same sex only interact sexually with a partner of a different sex, not each other. There are MFM threesomes, with two people who identify as male interacting with a partner who identifies as female, and FMF threesomes, with two people who identify as female interacting with a partner who identifies as male.
More About FFF Threesome
Why do people enjoy FFF threesomes?
Some people enjoy FFF threesomes for the novelty. This kind of threesome can allow someone to have sex with someone outside their relationship, which can be liberating and shake up the usual routine. Having sex with someone new can also be very exciting for single people.
The novelty of an FFF threesome extends to the thrill of pleasuring and receiving pleasure from more than one person. An FFF threesome can amplify pleasure, as there are more hands and mouths to stimulate the body.
Dr. Jenn Kennedy, PhD, LMFT, who founded Riviera Therapy and The Pleasure Project, adds that "In general, women enjoy sharing, and are very good at mutual enjoyment. They aren’t self-focused or competitive with each other in the same way we see with men. Rather, they value everyone having pleasure, so three women together magnify this dynamic. Women are also incredibly patient. Women typically take longer to reach arousal, so women in combination allow for longer foreplay. Additionally, multiple female partners together build arousal through seeing and hearing the pairing of one another."
People with voyeuristic tendencies may also enjoy watching other people have sex with one another during an FFF threesome. These people may prefer taking a more passive role in the threesome and allowing the other two participants to pleasure one another while they masturbate or simply watch the action.
How to Set Up an FFF Threesome
A good FFF threesome starts with communication. People in relationships should talk about their desire to have an FFF threesome together before inviting a third into the discussion. During this initial conversation, couples can discuss their reasons for wanting a threesome, what they hope to get out of it, and any limits they have. They can also discuss whether they will both be part of the threesome and what they need from their partner to feel safe in the relationship, whether they are a participant in the threesome or not. If partners have different views, they may negotiate or make compromises. It may take several discussions for couples to feel they’re ready to talk to a potential third.
A single person might have a similar conversation with themselves before speaking to others about having a threesome. They might think about their boundaries and what they hope to get out of the experience. This process can help singles advocate for themselves when negotiating a threesome with a couple or two other single people.
The most successful FFF threesomes are often planned. While people may enjoy threesomes that happen spontaneously at events or after social gatherings, ideally all parties will sit down and talk about what they’re about to do together. Choosing a neutral location like a bar for this conversation can relieve the pressure. Everyone should speak openly as individuals, rather than couples speaking for their partners. This conversation gives all parties the chance to gauge their chemistry and give consent. They can also discuss their preferred pronouns, plans for safe sex, preferred sexual dynamics and activities, hard and soft and limits, and what might happen after the threesome.
Tips for a Successful FFF Threesome
These tips can help all participants have a more successful FFF threesome:
- Be prepared with a clear plan, but don’t be afraid to let the threesome unfold organically, so long as it stays within everyone’s limits
- Consider having sex with participants individually beforehand to reduce tension and enhance pleasure
- Pay attention to the verbal and nonverbal cues of all participants and ensure everyone stays engaged and feels included and valued
- Be proactive to avoid feeling left out
- Let everyone receive pleasure in the ways they prefer
- Be respectful and courteous to other participants
- Advocate for personal needs
- Listen to the other participants and help them satisfy their needs
- Keep drugs and alcohol to a minimum to stay in the moment
- Bring sex toys and clean them between partners
- Have plenty of lubricant for play with and without toys
- While FFF threesomes are low-risk activities, consider dental dams and gloves to further reduce the risk of STIs
- Spend time together in a non-sexual way after the threesome to help all participants feel valued
FFF Threesome Positions
The following sexual positions are ideal for people engaging in FFF threesomes:
- The daisy chain: Each person performs cunnilingus on someone while they’re receiving cunnilingus from someone else.
- Sleeping beauties: The participants spoon and enjoy touching the person in front or behind them, or both.
- The rocking chair: One person lies on their back and receives stimulation from the fingers or a toy of one person sitting at their feet, while they manually or orally pleasure the other person sitting behind them.
- Double cowgirl: One person lies on their back and gives cunnilingus to someone sitting on her face while the third person penetrates them with a sex toy or strap-on
- Oral doggy: One person gets on all fours and performs cunnilingus on someone in front while the third penetrates them from behind with a sex toy or strap-on
- Queen for a day: The receiving partner stands with their feet slightly apart while the two giving partners perform cunnilingus.
- Scissor sisters: Two people scissor one another while the third watches and can masturbate or touch the bodies of the scissoring pair.
- The Sunday morning: Two people lie side by side on a bed while the other person stands and explores their bodies.
- Rub-a-dub-dub in a tub: Everyone gets in a hot tub and faces inward so they can kiss and touch one another.
