An MMF threesome is group sex involving two male-identifying participants and one female-identifying participant who all pleasure one another. This type of threesome involves male-female and male-male sexual activity. It is sometimes called an MMF threeway. Other types of threesomes include FFM, MFM, FMF, FFF and MMM.
Because an MMF threesome includes male-female and male-male sexual activity, it may involve men who identify as bisexual. Bisexual men may enjoy an MMF threesome as it allows them to enjoy sex with another man and a woman they may be attracted to. While being bisexual, pansexual, or bi-curious can make an MMF threesome feel more comfortable and arousing for male participants, it is not essential. Some men may engage in an MMF threesome because their partner is aroused by male-male sexual activity. They may also get caught up in the moment and act in a way that doesn’t necessarily align with their sexuality.
How common are MMF threesomes?
It’s difficult to determine how common MMF threesomes are, as there is little research on the subject. The studies are often small in scale, so there’s a chance that the participants do not reflect the community at large. The most prominent studies are also a little dated, so they may not reflect current sexual habits.
In 2018, Birmingham City University academic Dr. Ryan Scoats spoke to 16 women who said they’d been involved in a mixed-sex threesome at least once. Twenty percent of these women said they’d had an MMF threesome, and 37 percent said they wanted to. Most participants said they were aroused by male-male sexual interaction. Dr. Scoats also spoke to several young men and found that around three-quarters were open to MMF threesomes.
In 2017, PLOS ONE published another sexual study that documented the experiences of more than 2,000 American adults. It found that 10% of women and 18% of men had participated in a threesome. While the type of threesome wasn’t documented, the higher percentage of men recorded suggests threesomes with two men and one woman, including MMF threesomes, may be more common than threesomes involving one or no men.
While a significant number of people said they’d had a threesome, it seems most people aren’t engaging in them regularly. Fewer than 3% of people surveyed said they’d had a threesome in the last 12 months, and fewer than 1% reported having a threesome in the last month. That may be because finding a threesome can be half the battle in making this fantasy a reality
Other Threesome Combos
An MMF is just one of several threesome combinations. An MFM threesome is another threesome involving two male-identifying participants and a female-identifying participant. The men in a MFM threesome focus their attention on the woman and do not pleasure one another, as they do in a MMF threesome.
There are also FFM and FMF threesomes involving two female-identifying participants and one male-identifying participant. Everyone pleasures one another in an FFM threesome. In an FMF threesome, the women focus their attention on the men; there is no female-female sexual activity.
There are also FFF threesomes, with all female-identifying participants, and MMM threesomes, with all male-identifying participants. It’s up to the participants of these threesomes if they all want to have sex with one another or want to focus their sexual energy on one person.
More About MMF Threesome
“People are drawn to MMF threesomes for the same reasons they are drawn to other types of threesomes or other sexual acts,” according to Rhiannon John, a certified sexologist for BedBible.com.
“Many people are curious about diverse sexual experiences and the desire to explore new fantasies. Many people have fantasized about threesomes, and participating in one is a way to realize a long-standing fantasy or fulfill a specific desire. Additionally, threesomes, particularly MMF threesomes, are still seen as slightly taboo for many people, which increases excitement and adventure for those who participate in them. They also create opportunities for heightened sexual pleasure, variety, and stimulation, while expanding the range of possible sexual positions and providing an avenue for sexual exploration. In my professional experience, I've encountered individuals who have found satisfaction in MMF threesomes, especially when all participants identified as pansexual or bisexual, as it allowed them to explore this dynamic in a safe and non-stigmatized environment,” John said.
Experiencing sexual pleasure and watching others experience it at the same time during an MMF threesome can also be thrilling. Some women enjoy these threesomes because they are turned on watching male-male sexual activity. Some people in relationships may enjoy MMF threesomes because they want to see their partner interacting sexually with someone else.
Setting up an MMF Threesome
Couples interested in an MMF threesome should discuss the idea ahead of time. While a threesome can deepen a couple’s connection, it can also strain it if both people aren’t on the same page. It’s a good idea to discuss reasons for wanting a threesome, potential partners and what the threesome might look like, including any hard limits. Knowing what is permitted and what’s not ahead of time can make the threesome go more smoothly.
Choosing the right third person is also important. Some people prefer choosing a friend, as they already feel comfortable around them. Close friends usually aren’t advisable, as relationships with them can become more complicated. Other people prefer having MMF threesomes with strangers they find on sex-positive dating apps.
The right location should make all parties feel comfortable. A hotel or Airbnb can provide good neutral ground. Some committed couples prefer having threesomes in their own home, as they feel safe there.
For couples, having a clear plan can help them protect their relationship and feel more at ease. Plans are less important for singles, who can act more spontaneously and enjoy a threesome with less planning. However, it’s important for couples and singles to take the time to communicate with their intended partners before a threesome begins and ensure everyone gives enthusiastic, informed consent. For couples, an introductory meeting in a neutral space allows time for discussing the plan and confirming there’s the right sexual chemistry. Singles should also take the time to discuss how they imagine the threesome working and any boundaries they have.
Tips for Threesome Success
Communication shouldn’t stop once an MMF threesome begins. Letting partners know what feels good - and what doesn’t - can make the experience more enjoyable. Consent should also be ongoing throughout the experience. John encourages people engaging in threesomes to "continually check in with your partners to ensure everyone feels good and no boundaries have been crossed."
Jealousy is a natural emotion that any threesome may trigger, especially for couples. It can be minimized by everyone ensuring that their partners get plenty of attention. Taking a break or speaking up can also help jealousy pass. If jealousy feels overwhelming, stopping the threesome can be the healthiest option.
While a little alcohol can make participants relax, it’s important not to overdo it. Having a clear head makes it easier to communicate, respect boundaries and treat partners well.
Using condoms and dental dams during an MMF threesome protects all participants against unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections. Getting tested at regular intervals and ensuring partners do the same can further reduce the risks of STIs.
John also recommends couples practice aftercare after any threesome.
"Threesomes can be immensely enjoyable, but they can also be emotionally challenging and require effort," John explained. "To ensure everyone feels cared for and respected, engage in some type of aftercare once you've finished your intimate activities. Aftercare can take various forms depending on individual preferences but might involve something as simple as snuggling and discussing the experience." For example, participants may talk about what they enjoyed, any jealousy they experienced, and whether they’d be open to another MMF threesome.
