So, is there a direct correlation between the amount of time a person spends watching porn, and whether or not they identified as bisexual? Or is that just a correlation that can be chalked up to some other factor?
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“Watching porn (excessively or a little) does not ‘make’ someone bisexual,” says Kayla Lords, writer, and sexpert for JackandJillAdult.com. “However, watching sex in different ways, viewing different types of bodies and sex acts, and exposing (pardon the pun) yourself to a variety of sex could help someone discover more of what they enjoy and what turns them on,” Lords said. While Lords doesn’t recommend porn as a replacement for sex education, it has been and can be used to discover desires you may not have known you had.
As a female-identifying human, I’ve always had an inclination for other female-identifying people. Sure, it was a slow, clumsy ride in my formative years. I knew what I felt, but I didn't have the words or confidence to explore or explain it. It wasn't until I went to college and had my first legit, same-sex experience and subsequent relationship that I was certain of my bisexuality. Still, this foray into same-sex dynamics was an isolated situation; I didn't have a whole lot of experience.
Fast forward a decade. Craigslist, or maybe MediaBistro, first connected me with AVN.com. At the time, it was the world's largest consolidator of adult entertainment news, content and information. I was hired as the website’s first female porn reviewer and adopted the pseudonym “Nathalie Katz.” Fully aware that this gig could conflict with the children’s books I was penning at the time, I made sure my two editorial worlds did not collide. It worked swimmingly, as I reviewed upwards of 25 porn videos a month, sometimes as many as 50, and expanded my vocabulary in ways I never imagined possible. (To this day, I cannot look at an ATM machine without thinking “ass to mouth.”) "Nathalie" made lots of money channeling my smutty alter-ego online. That contract generated far more income than the kids’ books, as well as major props from my UPS guy, who was the recipient of many gently used DVDs. Go figure.
