In the world of BDSM role-play, a mommy is a dominant female figure who acts as another partner's mother. More specifically, it is a type of age play in which a woman pretends to be an older woman taking care of her much younger child. The submissive partners in these relationships are often referred to as "littles." During play, mommies may punish their littles in various ways, such as by spanking, or nurture them, such as by cuddling with them, or a combination of both.
When a male assumes this role, he is referred to as a daddy.
Mommies overlap significantly with mistresses in other types of female dominance, only this type of relationship tends to be gentler and more nurturing, and to avoid dynamics like servitude.
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Age play and role playing as a mommy is not related to pedophilia in any way, contrary to what some may believe. Individuals who have mommies or act as mommies are also typically not interested in incest either. This relationship is more about dominance and submission, as well as recreating the emotions and experiences of childhood.
A mommy kink can play out in a number of key ways, including:
- Nurturing: Mommies can be nurturing to their submissives. They might cuddle them, comfort them, stroke their hair, nurse them or care for them in a number of ways.
- Punishment/BDSM Play: Being a mommy may also involve punishing a submissive when they break key rules and boundaries. These are typically consensual types of BDSM play that the couple enjoys, such as spanking, restraints, tease and denial, force orgasms, all sorts of other types of play that fall under dominant/submissive play.
- Rules and Boundaries: Because the mommy is a dominant, she may have rules for her little to follow. This may include how the submissive dresses, behaves or goes about their day. If the rules are broken, it might mean punishment.
- Self Expression: Couples in this dynamic may choose various ways to express their roles. This may include the way they speak to each other, the way they dress when carrying out their roles and the activities they enjoy while in these roles.
