Engaging in or fantasizing about being an exhibitionist is a common fantasy. Surveys suggest that more than half of people asked think about having sex in an open public space. More than 80% of folks are turned on by the thought of having sex in communal spaces, such as workplaces, bathrooms, restaurants and more.
Exhibitionist behaviors cover a wide-ranging spectrum of activities. In one sense, a person never has to leave their home to be an exhibitionist. They can wearing sexually appealing outfits such as lingerie or jock straps, perform striptease dances, have sex with the lights on or participate in mutual masturbation with their partner. The end goal is to be seen or heard.
Other out-of-home activities can elicit attention from a wider range of people. This can include wearing revealing clothing to attract attention, flirting, touching and dancing provocatively, performing burlesque or stripping or attending sex parties and participating in sexual activities while being watched.
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One one hand, embracing exhibitionistic fantasies and desires can be a fulfilling embrace of erotic potential. Knowing and understanding your kinks can completely change a person’s sexual life. And given how popular exhibitionist tendencies are, both in survey results and in popular media, opening this potential up could prove to be very satisfying to many.
However, consent must always be considered. It is easy to deride the traditional view of the flasher opening their trenchcoat at passersby. That is clearly non-consensual. At the same time, how many other, celebrated, exhibitionist desires easily slip into the non-consent category? Car sex, camping sex, backyard sex, loud sex, skinny dipping, park sex—all of these can attract unwitting eyes and betray consent. The fear of getting caught is what adds to the excitement for some people. All of the above have certainly been depicted in movies and television as desirable. They will also show up as options on how to spice up your sex life in advice columns.