Slut Training

Reviewed by Dr. Laura McGuire
on September 22, 2021

Slut training is a BDSM process where a dominant partner teaches the consenting submissive partner to behave in a sexually unrestricted or "slutty" way. Slut training encourages a submissive to behave in a way that subverts society’s expectations. It ideally results in a holistic transformation involving what they wear, how they act, and how they think.


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A submissive woman usually receives slut training because in regular life, they are often encouraged to be modest and wholesome. However, a submissive of any gender can receive slut training from any dominant partner. Many people who are submissive by nature tend to prefer behaving in a conservative way. Through slut training, a submissive can become more uninhibited in both public and private spheres.

There are many elements to slut training. Display training involves teaching the submissive provocative poses. These poses might include opening the vulvar lips to expose the vagina or spreading the buttocks to expose the anus. This type of training aims to make the submissive respond automatically with the appropriate position when the situation requires, whether they’re in a private or public space. Some dominants use display training as a test of obedience by calling for various positions at seemingly inappropriate times.

Dominants also teach submissives to become better lovers. For example, they may teach them how to perform oral sex or a good hand job. Slut training may also see submissives encouraged to dress in clothes that show off their shape and plenty of skin.

Along with encouraging provocative behaviors, there is also a strong mental element to slut training. The dominant aims to shift the submissive’s mindset. Many submissive people initially feel shy, reluctant, or embarrassed by the acts they must perform during slut training. A good dominant will help the submissive overcome these emotions and become more comfortable and confident being sexually provocative. This may occur naturally over time or through hypnotism.


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More About Slut Training

The word slut has long been used to shame and demean women who are sexually active or give the impression they are more sexually available than society deems appropriate, whether through their behavior, way of dressing or language they use. Slut training uses the pejorative word and reclaims it and subverts it. "Slut" is an aim both partners are going for in slut training.

Practicing slut training is a good way for dominants and submissives to reinforce their bond and hierarchy. Dominants take the lead while submissives have a more subservient role where they should obey.

Many submissives undertake slut training because they want to be used and to please their dominant. Slut training encourages submissives to let go of their inhibitions, which can be very freeing. When submissives become a toy for pleasure, they don’t need to worry about meeting society’s expectations. They only need to satisfy their partner, which often feels like a much simpler task. Dominants enjoy having power over their submissives and guiding them as they transform into more overtly sexual people.

As the emotions of submissives going through slut training are closely related to humiliation, dominants can also use this practice as part of humiliation play. It’s not uncommon for dominants to verbally humiliate their partner for dressing or acting like a slut, despite training them to do exactly that.

As with all BDSM activities, consent is essential for responsible slut training. While the submissive may feel ashamed, embarrassed or humiliated during the process, they also consent to the activities. Although it's expected that submissives will obey their dominant’s commands, they are also free to withdraw their consent at any time. The dominant should also monitor their submissive and make sure they are still consenting, especially when they are pushing their boundaries or entering subspace.


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Submissives should consider their choice of dominant carefully. Feeling comfortable with a dominant can help the submissive feel safe when they are stepping outside their comfort zone. Most good dominants start the slut training processes by establishing a safe word and safe action, which the submissive can use to withdraw their consent if they cannot speak. They should also remind submissives of risk-aware consensual kink practices so they can play safely together.

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