Pretty soon, I learned everything my coworkers had to offer. During my downtime, I began checking out the few resources available at the store, like Jack Morin’s "Anal Pleasure and Health" and Tristan Taormino’s "The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation." These books helped me learn more about the pleasure zones present in the body, zones that I had been completely oblivious of, and I began passing this information along to my first students - my customers.
At the recommendation of a coworker, I started reading the snarky sex toy reviews on Epiphora’s blog, and soon my mind was filled with even more new information, especially terms like phthalates, parabens, medical grade, and toxic sex toys. I ravenously snapped up any information I could get, reading Dangerous Lilly’s blog and Violet Blue’s post about toxic toys, for example. (For more on toxic toys, check out Sex Toy Safety: A Guide to Materials.)
It got to a point where I had so much information in my head that talking to customers wasn’t enough. So I started my blog.
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These experiences changed my life, and not only by completely changing the course of my career. My sex education trajectory has brought me so many good things, like a deeper understanding of my gender and my body; the tools to deal with and heal from an assault; the words with which to communicate in my relationships and my sex life; and the courage to explore the pleasurable options my body affords me, when before I was scared of something mysterious and unfamiliar. This process of educating myself about sex has also helped me be body positive after years of negativity and self loathing. (For more on the importance of loving your body and yourself, read 10 Things You Don't Know About Self Love.)
