First, I like to tell my clients that it is OK and “normal”, if you will, to be tired. It is also natural in a relationship for sex to ebb and flow, where sometimes you have a lot of sex and other times you don’t. That said, there is also a need to remember that when we are part of couple, that relationship is also a priority, just like our jobs and other responsibilities. It needs to be given its due. So, couples need to come up with some ideas that suit their schedule and sexual needs appropriately.
One idea is to switch the time of day you have sex. Morning or afternoon sex can catch you both long before the day sets in and exhaustion hits. Or, wait until you both get home but try intimacy before dinner and domestic duties. No one said sex has to happen right before you go to sleep. Think of it like ordering dessert before dinner - just to make sure you have room to fit it in. (Read more in 6 Reasons Why Orgasms Need to Be Part of Your Morning Routine - Starting Now!)
Another idea is to schedule nights for intimacy. I know, I know. Scheduling sounds boring, lacks spontaneity, etc. But, think of it like this: you cannot just flit off on vacation whenever you want. That requires planning, scheduling, balancing and budgeting – and you’re excited the whole time because you just cannot wait to get away from life for a bit and enjoy. Why not think of your sex life like a mini staycation? You don't have to plan your night in minute detail. You can, however, set aside Friday night for you and your partner to stay in, order take out, and disconnect from the outside world for a few hours to enjoy just each other however you see fit. Or, perhaps the kids have scheduled activities on Saturday afternoons. Why not take advantage of that?
