When we think about sex, this also activates an emotional response that is directly connected to our ability to orgasm. Brain studies show that women who used erotic imagery alone were able to bring themselves to orgasm, with the same areas of the brain being activated as those who had an orgasm triggered by physical touch. It’s also referred to as "thinking off" and proves that the role of the mind is powerful in a woman’s ability to climax. Women who find it difficult to orgasm can even use imagery or a memory of a pleasurable sexual experience to heighten arousal and induce an intense orgasmic response.
Remember that your brain is your biggest sex organ! As women, it is important for us to "think" about sex and what we want sexually in order to bring on sexual desire. It is not always spontaneous, so we need to think about sexual stimuli in order to have more pleasurable sex. If you are having difficulty bringing yourself to orgasm or want to expand your orgasmic experiences, try using erotica or fantasy to deepen your sexual experience.