Non-ejaculation has become quite the buzz word. For the yoga and wellness community "semen retention" has become a movement. Or perhaps you’ve heard some men who are members of the "no fap" community, which encourages abstinence from porn and masturbation, preach about their increased energy and mental clarity?
In this guest post, intimacy expert and Tantra coach Magda Kay dives into the practice of non-ejaculation.
The purported benefits of non-ejaculation
In fact, the purported benefits of non-ejaculation are dazzling. Claims of mental health improvements include increased motivation and focus, self-confidence, improved memory and even reduced anxiety and depression.
Physical benefits are said to be increased testosterone, weight loss, muscle gain and clearer skin. The sexual side effects include being able to last longer during sexual activities, conserving energy after sex, and even being able to experience the elusive full-body orgasm!
Perhaps the most impressive, however, is the improvement many men say non-ejaculation makes to their spiritual health. Many men report a stronger sense of purpose and peace, improved relationships and even self-mastery.
All of this sounds great, right? So, what’s the catch? Are there any risks to holding back, and is forgoing ejaculation worth the hype?
The concept of energy cultivation may just be a step too far into the ‘woo woo’ realm for some sceptics, which is perfectly understandable. But in my opinion, the possibility to last longer in the bedroom, let alone feeling the intensity and pleasure of a full body orgasm should be enough to tempt most men to give this practice a try.
After all, what do you have to lose?
What About ‘Blue Balls?’
The threat of blue balls is probably setting off alarm bells in many male minds as they read this. But hear me out…
This technique should not involve any forceful retention, and if done correctly, non-ejaculation should not result in any discomfort whatsoever. The issue with most health fads and gimmicks is that when they get popularized and become mainstream, they are often over simplified and end up losing their essence, and potential benefit, altogether. By tensing your body to keep your semen in, all you are doing is removing orgasm from sex. This is where some may experience not only blue balls, but sexual dissatisfaction.
Forget abstinence and force! The true practice of non-ejaculation involves channeling your sexual energy.
Practicing non-ejaculation... and maybe a little Sex Magic
You can learn to effectively channel your sexual with three steps:
- Perceive and become aware of your sexual energy
- Pull it into your body
- Spread this energy throughout your entire body
Of course, that's a simplified breakdown. But those are the basics.
This practice is known, ‘Brahmacharya’ and was developed by tantric masters in the East thousands of years ago. Most men have probably experienced the feeling of low energy or sleepiness after climax. This method allowed the men practicing tantra to engage in sexual practices without losing any of their valuable ‘life force’, which they needed to conserve for spiritual practices.
Sex Magic
These tantric practitioners channeled this energy into achieving and manifesting their goals. This is called "sex magic," and although it may sound crazy, it's more mainstream than you may think! Sex magic is rumored to be practiced by many famous businessmen and celebrities. Even Napoleon Hill briefly touched on it in his famous book Think and Grow Rich.
The best way to learn the art of non-ejaculation and maybe even sex magic is seeking the guidance of a professional or enrolling in a course which will teach you the right techniques.
But if you’re too keen to wait and want to start practicing on your own, begin with these steps:
Awareness
To begin to feel your sexual energy, you will need to feel more awareness and presence in your body. Practices like yoga, breathwork or even meditation are great tools to help with this.
Edging
You’ve probably heard of edging before. It's the practice of engaging in sexual stimulation then stopping when things get more intense, before starting again. This can not only result in intensified arousal and more powerful orgasms, but it is also used as a method of building up your sexual energy.
Relaxation
It may be easier said than done, but try to relax your body when you are having sex with a partner. This will take practice, but in time you will start to become aware of the sexual energy moving through your body.
Reaping the benefits
We could all use a little more energy and vitality in our lives. Although these practices and their benefits may seem far-fetched, perhaps they are worth a try, especially if they have the potential to change your life!
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