The prostate gland in men produces seminal fluid. It can be as small as a walnut in younger men and as big as a plum in older men. It surrounds the base of the urethra, kind of like a doughnut, and is located just below the bladder and above the rectum. A small lumpy portion of the prostate can be felt with a finger inserted 2-3 inches inside the rectal cavity. You can find it by feeling upward in the rectum towards the penis while the man is on his back. The prostate usually feels like a small lump with the texture of a kidney bean. It gets larger and more prominent with arousal and, with stimulation, may develop small ridges, like on the roof of your mouth. The fluid it produces is an alkaline seminal fluid that is used to counteract the acidic content of the vagina to help sperm live longer. It is believed that the biggest cancer-reducing benefit of prostate massage is from the oxygenation of the prostate. Oxygenation increases blood flow and causes the expulsion of viral, bacterial, and fungal buildups (potential carcinogens) inside the gland. With prostate massage, ejaculation can occur with or without erection. Either way, bam! Your pipes are clean.
So, how do you massage/milk a prostate safely? The man should lay on his back with a towel underneath him. First, inspect the rectum for obvious issues like anal tears or hemorrhoids. Make sure the area has been cleaned with soap and water. Put on a fresh latex/nitrile disposable glove and arouse the receiver by kissing, playing with his nipples, and massaging his entire body. Relaxation is not just key, it’s vital. Next, switch to a handjob or oral sex. Play around this way for 20 minutes minimum without allowing it to go too far. Once he is both aroused and relaxed, put silicone lube on his anus and all over one gloved finger. Some people prefer the middle and some the index finger; whatever feels better for you is fine. Remember to keep your finger well lubed, move slowly, and don’t pull out unless you need to. For the sake of comfort remember, wetter is better; you can’t use too much lube. (Get more tips on anal play in Anal Sex: After the Entrance.)