Our O’s
Have you ever tried to watch your own orgasm face? Or even caught a glimpse of what you look like in the throes of sexual bliss by accident? Just imagine how many people were surprised (or turned on) when they saw themselves reflected back in the mirrors embedded in the headboards of 1980s era waterbeds! What we look like during orgasm is arguably one of the most intimate and vulnerable images our body can express. As such, it is also one of the most intimate and vulnerable images of a partner we can experience. This short film of different people’s orgasm faces is very intriguing to watch. As noted, it can even be a little difficult because we’re not intimately connected with these folks. Because their pleasure is presumed to be authentic by their participation in this film, viewing them is a different experience than watching porn, where savvy consumers understand that the pleasure being projected may just be an act. A small film, a simple experience, much to consider.
Come On!
What happens when good intentions go too far into a new negative? I do believe artist Sofia Metsoviti was on to a great idea when she created her “It’s not done if I don’t come” t-shirts. You’d be surprised at how powerful a message emblazoned on our chests can be! And the message is clear: women’s pleasure should no longer be ignored or considered secondary. This is an important step in ensuring positive sexual fun for everyone. However, the message from Metsoviti is too absolute. Nobody is ever guaranteed to reach orgasm in sex. Metsoviti’s t-shirt can send the message that orgasm is the ultimate sexual goal and those who do not come just aren’t cutting it sexually. That is an equally powerful message, though not one we want to spread. (Read more in Stop Worrying About Your Orgasm. Seriously.)
