You’ve been fantasizing about having a threesome for a while, you finally have a couple of cheerful playmates ready to go… now what?
As with all sex, try to stay flexible. Not all positions will work for all people, and many of them will need to be changed up or adjusted as you go. Don’t expect to pick a position and stay there until everyone has had their fill. Rather, expect to change and flow as the evening goes on.
One way to stay flexible about positions is to add body-safe sex toys to the mix. For example, a strap-on can add a lot of options for who is topping who, and how many different ways you can combine bodies, no matter the bodies of the players.
Some of the best threesome sex positions take advantage of one of the unique features of a threesome — you get to watch hot sex happening in front of you while you’re having it! Consider this when you’re deciding how to arrange bodies, and be sure to give the voyeurs a good view.
We like to call this one "Doggy with a Biscuit." In this position, the person in the middle gets a ton of stimulation, and the people on each end get personal sex shows while getting off. The way this works, you start with your standard doggy style position, then add a person in front of the person on their hands and knees. This can all be done on the bed together, or if you’d like to play with heights and leverage, the doggy style couple can be on the floor while the third person is in front of them on the edge of the bed or on a couch. This position also lends itself well to taking a quick break so two of the people can swap roles.
The triple missionary threesome position is a great option when two (or more) of your players are interested in deep intimacy. Start with what you expect as the standard missionary position, with one person on top of another, then add a third person behind. Typically this third person will penetrate the person in the middle, from behind.
While the two people in missionary can also engage in some penetration or hand sex, it’s also very nice to simply make out. You get the closeness of being face to face, engaging in eye contact, while the sex from behind is happening. If desired, it’s also possible for the person in the back to lean forward and get in on some of the kissing as well.
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In this double rider position, one person lays back while two people hop on for a ride — one over the genitals and one over the face. Typically the two top people are facing each other and you’ve got a lot of flexibility about how involved they are, if at all. If you’d like, it’s easy to lean forward and make out, if not, the people on top can keep a little distance and still enjoy the view. Meanwhile, the person on the bottom can be overwhelmed with sensation and can live out all their “giver” fantasies. This one would be great for an FFF threesome.
A threesome classic, spit roasting takes full advantage of having three bodies available, and provides intense stimulation for the person who ends up in the middle.
Similar to the doggy plus oral, in this position the person in the middle is on all fours, while the people at each end are on their knees. The person in the middle is both being penetrated from behind, and providing oral sex to the person in front. Because of the upright position of the receivers, this is easiest with a penis or strap on.
While potentially awkward at first, this position is a lot of fun when everyone finds their rhythm. It’s also a great option for situations where not everyone in the threesome wants to be intimately involved with everyone else — instead, one person can be the center of attention and the star of the show. If you feel like a laugh, this position can transition into the Eiffel Tower by having the people on each end high five over the third.
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Along with the Spit Roast, double penetration is one of the best known — and most fantasized about — threesome positions. The double stuffed position often looks a lot like the Triple Missionary, but the person in the middle may need to be a bit more upright. Typically, the person in the middle is being penetrated by both other parties, either double vaginal penetration or one vaginal, one anal.
This is easier said than done!
A few considerations. For starters, if you’re doing this with two penises, keep in mind that it can be pretty tricky to coordinate erections. Be ready to pivot to a plan-b or to use toys if some or all bodies aren’t cooperating. (Be sure not to shame the person or people who can’t perform on command!)
Also, the two penetrating parties, if using penises, will be pretty up close and personal. So it’s important that they’re pretty comfortable with each other.
When it comes to safety, it’s also important to know that if two condom covered penises are sharing the same hole, the added friction between the condoms can greatly increase the risk of one or both tearing. For this reason it can actually be safer if they’re each using their own opening, or if it’s one penis and one toy (or two toys.) It can also work if one person is wearing a condom and the other isn’t, such as when there’s a fluid-bonded couple involved. But even then the condom that is still involved can have an increased risk of slipping.
Just be sure to weigh these considerations against your desire for the fantasy.
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Similar to the double straddle, the doubling position has the person laying down is both giving and receiving oral sex. The person sitting on their face has the option of getting involved in the oral sex happening in front of them — maybe even with some hair pulling if everyone has negotiated for that kind of kink play.
This is also a good position to do for a few minutes and then swap roles, so everyone gets a turn in every position.
While these positions largely focus on options that allow everyone involved to potentially get off at the same time, that’s not required for a good threesome! Remember that simply sharing massage or making out is a lot of fun, and it’ll be an extra thrill if shared with three people.
It’s also fine for some positions to be more about two people while the third watches, or takes a break, as long as that doesn’t make them feel left out. And don’t forget that mutual masturbation for three is always a great option, and can be a great way to end the night to make sure that everyone leaves satisfied!
