How Can I Last Longer When Using a Vibrating Butt Plug?

Lately I've been using a vibrating butt plug but it makes me cum too hard to fast and too much. Anybody else ever have this problem?

It sounds like your vibrating butt plug is providing prostate stimulation, which can absolutely make orgasms more intense! And while a fast, intense orgasm can be a nice treat, sometimes it’s a shame for play to end almost before it begins. If you’d like to draw out the time between arousal and orgasm, there are a variety of toys and techniques you can try.

Explore Edging

If you’re giving yourself penile stimulation at the same time as using the vibrating butt plug, edging might be a good technique to explore. With edging, you bring yourself to the "edge" of orgasm, and then back off stimulation to cool off for a bit, before resuming play and getting close again.

Some people use this technique to hold off orgasm for hours (or even days!) The ultimate payoff is often worth the wait.

Try Different Toys & Techniques

Another option could be to change up the toys that you’re using. It may be the vibration that’s making this stimulation too intense. Try a toy from Aneros — the unique shape of their prostate massagers provide stimulation hands-free, and the stimulation ramps up whenever your muscles contract. This could offer the extra oomph of a prostate orgasm without getting you there quite so fast.

And if your prostate is highly sensitive, there’s a chance you could experience a prostate orgams without penial stimulation at all! Grab a toy like the nJoy Pure Wand, plenty of lube, and take your time.

With prostate orgasms some folks are able to experience multiple orgasms, as you can have a prostate orgasm without ejaculation (and it’s the ejaculation that requires refractory time, not the orgasm.)

The prostate isn’t the only sensitive area when it comes to anal play. In fact, the whole anal region is full of nerve endings with the potential for pleasure. If penetration is too intense, try external anal massage as part of your play routine. With plenty of lube and trimmed fingernails (or better yet, gloves) you can provide a range of sensations to spice up masturbation or partnered play.

What NOT to do

Finally, here’s a tip of what NOT to do. Numbing creams, while tempting, are generally a bad idea, especially when combined with anal play. It’s important to stay fully in tune with your body when exploring sensitive areas, as your body’s feedback is essential for avoiding any harm.

And even if a numbing cream can make play last longer, it can also make you miss pain cues, and once the pleasure subsides and the cream wears off, you may be facing an injury.